Faith Unbound: Navigating the Process of Disentanglement

Deconstruction is a scary world, but it doesn’t have to be. Deconstruction does not have to mean deconverting. (But it might and that’s okay too! šŸ˜‰)

The deconstruction of Christianity is something I’ve heard of since stepping into the world of theology, but I never thought I’d find myself smack dab in the middle of the movement.

Disentangling or Deconstruction is a phenomenon where individuals, often within the Christian faith, critically reevaluate their beliefs, doctrines, and practices. This process involves questioning and challenging long-held assumptions, teachings, and traditions within Christianity, with the goal of arriving at a more authentic and personally meaningful understanding of faith.

Apologetics like Alisha Childers, Mama bear Apologetics or pasters like John Mark Comer are doing piss-poor jobs articulating “why” we are deconstructing and it’s truly offensive and only adding more fuel for the fire.

Is deconstruction the enemy of Christianity like Alisa, Mama Bear Apologetics, and so many others assert? please read Liz Mall’s take on this……

or listen (click here!)

There were numerous aspects that led me to begin unraveling, the real smack upside the head, realizing I was within a spiritual abusive biblical counseling relationship and program, that led me to notice the brutal similarities of abuse within IHOPKC, the scandals within the Grace Community Church & ACBC Biblical/Nouthetic counseling….

Unveiling the Shadows: Exploring Abuse and Ideology in Religious Communities

  1. Introduction:
    • Introduction to the podcast episode’s theme of uncovering abuse and harmful ideologies within religious communities.
    • Brief overview of my entire faith journey to provide context on where we started, where we were, and how we got here.
    • Exploring the Gray Area: Between Cults and High-Control Environments
    • END TIMES OBSESSION–Prophecy Belief in modern American culture concludes that while Christian fascination with the end of the world has existed for a very long time, but only recently have evangelicals label contemporary events with great self-confidence as the fulfillment of biblical prophecies heralding the End of Time has been particularly intense. Since the publication of C.I. Scofield’s edition of the King James Version in 1909, premillennial dispensationalism came to dominate evangelical thought. Also known as Dispensationalism, which can be hard to define, but one of the telltale signs is the date setting historicism of those like Hal Lindsey which I mentioned on my testimony podcast, episode who identify current events as the fulfillment of biblical prophecies.
    • The rise of the Holiness movement, Pentecostalism and fundamentalism marked a monumental development in American Evangelicalism. While these three movements were never entirely aligned in view theology, very different, they share a stress on the dangers of the world, the comforts of separated piety, the centrality of evangelism, and an expectation of the End.
    • As I was isolated during 2020-2022, I believe the process of radicalization and conversion to religion often intertwines with the allure of conspiracies. As individuals seek answers to complex questions and meaning in their lives, they may become drawn to radical ideologies and conspiratorial narratives that promise a sense of belonging, purpose, and empowerment. These ideologies may offer a simplistic worldview where the believer is part of an exclusive group that possesses hidden knowledge and is tasked with a righteous mission.
    • Conspiracies can provide a framework for interpreting the world and understanding perceived injustices or challenges. They often exploit feelings of fear, uncertainty, and distrust, portraying religious or ideological adversaries as sinister forces working against the believer’s values and identity. In this context, religion may offer a sense of community, moral guidance, and a framework for understanding the world that resonates with the believer’s conspiratorial worldview. (However, it’s important to recognize that not all individuals who embrace radical conspiracies end up converting to religion, and vice versa. Each person’s journey is unique and influenced by a combination of personal experiences, psychological factors, social influences, and external circumstances. Additionally, the relationship between radicalization, conspiracies, and religion is complex and multifaceted, with many variables at play.)
    • Generation Joshua, often called “GenJ” by its members, is an American Christian fundamentalist youth organization founded in 2003 that aims to encourage youth participation in government, civics, and politics toward conservative Christian values. Paul and Morgan are Mad About Being in the Dugger Documentary | Tim Whitaker | The New Evangelicals
    • Dangers of the “Trad Wife” movement on Instagram
    • The doctrine of inerrancy is an innovation of the nineteenth century. Rogers and McKim argued that the Princeton theologians of the nineteenth and early twentieth centuries, most notably B.B. Warfield, created the doctrine of inerrancy, which teaches that the Bible is entirely without error in all that it affirms. I bet you didn’t know the FACT that the inerrancy of the Bible–the belief that the Bible is without error–is a contentious topic among mainstream Christianity! Check out this book Five Views on Biblical Inerrancy (Counterpoints: Bible and Theology) 
  2. Purity Culture:
  3. John MacArthur Situation:
    • Discuss the implications of John MacArthur’s involvement, ACBC and the potential harm caused by authoritarian leadership within religious organizations.
    • Discuss MacArthur’s dismissive response to Wendy’s accusations, the confrontation and revelation of Paul Guay’s abuse, GCC’s inadequate response to the abuse, MacArthur’s involvement and contradictory statements, MacArthur’s public shaming of Eileen Gray, the elders’ dismissal of Gray’s abuse allegations, David Gray’s conviction and MacArthur’s support, Alistair Begg’s controversial advice and MacArthur’s response, and the lack of accountability for MacArthur’s actions.
    • Explore various forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, and spiritual, and the LACK OF ACCOUNTABILITY OR REFORM happening within churches and religious institutions.
    •  MacArthur’s views on slavery are HORRIFIC–listen here.
    • WHY IS IT protocol for the Church to Put a Marital Rape Victim under Church Discipline? Truly horrific protocols within the patriarchy.
  4. ACBC Biblical Counseling:
    • I was enrolled in Change that Sticks, an abusive ACBC biblical counseling program that stripped me of autonomy and treated any mental health condition as SIN that needed to be repented of, and not a real condition. Biblical counseling is dangerous, unethical and immoral.
    • Identification of manipulation and control tactics used in biblical counseling settings to exert emotional and psychological control over individuals.
    • We should consider the potential harms of relying solely on biblical counseling methods without considering professional mental health resources.
    • Call to action for religious leaders and communities to prioritize the safety and well-being of their members and address instances of abuse with transparency and accountability.
    • The key here for me to understand was that gravitating to fundamentalism after experiencing hyper-charismatic or the new age movement can make sense. Particularly during times of stress and uncertainty, we can gravitate towards the need for a sense of control & structure. The strict rules and structure create a perceived sense of safety, which is also another form of the prosperity gospel. Do these spiritual disciplines read the bible, pray, repent, etc for God’s blessing.  
  5. Mark Driscoll:
    • Overview of the rise and fall of Mark Driscoll, a controversial figure within evangelical Christianity.
    • Exploration of the allegations of abuse, authoritarian leadership, and ethical misconduct associated with Driscoll and his former church, Mars Hill Church.
    • Reflection on the lessons learned from the Mark Driscoll saga and the importance of holding religious leaders accountable for their actions.
  6. Learning more about Dominion theology & Christian nationalism. They are related but distinct movements within Christianity, both of which emphasize the idea of Christians playing a prominent role in shaping society and culture according to their religious beliefs. Prominent adherents of those ideologies include Calvinist Christian reconstructionism (Doug Wilson, Costi Hinn, John MacArthur, John Piper, Charlie Kirk) Charismatic and Pentecostal Kingdom Now theology, (7 Mountain Mandate) and the New Apostolic Reformation. How insane is it that this conservative group THRIVES on calling out ā€œfalse Christiansā€ and making a mockery of Pentecostals, while they are part of the very same theology, if not WORSE, because Council of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood/complementarianism is patriarchal and misogynistic at heart, and all of this is connected to the Lordship Salvation controversary (a rabbit hole you need to go down) and to my next point:

8. Critique of Nancy Pearcey’s book “Toxic War on Masculinity” and its assertions about masculinity and culture.:

  • Absence of evidence: The lack of empirical evidence to support the claims made in Pearcey’s book, particularly regarding the alleged “war on masculinity.” We should consider the potential consequences of promoting ideological narratives without empirical support.
  • Oversimplification of Gender Issues: Critics argue that Pearcey’s book oversimplifies complex gender issues by framing them as a ā€œwar on masculinity.ā€ They suggest that this framing perpetuates a binary view of gender and fails to adequately address the diverse experiences and identities of individuals across the gender spectrum.
  • Perpetuating Gender Stereotypes: Critics contend that Pearcey’s characterization of masculinity as under attack reinforces traditional gender stereotypes and norms, which may contribute to harmful social expectations and restricts the freedom of individuals to express their gender identity authentically.
  • Lack of Intersectionality: Some critics argue that Pearcey’s analysis lacks intersectionality, as it fails to consider how factors such as race, class, sexuality, and disability intersect with gender to shape individuals’ experiences and social realities. This omission may result in a limited understanding of the complexity of gender dynamics.
  • Ideological Bias: Some critics suggest that Pearcey’s perspective reflects a conservative or right-wing ideological bias, as she tends to frame gender issues within a traditional Christian worldview. This ideological framing may alienate readers with different religious or philosophical beliefs and limit the book’s appeal to a narrow audience.
  • Nancy claimed in the book and on a podcast interview that women’s suffrage was a net loss!!!!! This is part of Dominion Theology

9. Right-Wing Fundamentalists aka Dominion Theology/Christian Nationalism

Key features of fundamentalism include:

•Literalism: Fundamentalists often interpret Scripture texts in a literal or strict manner

•Inerrancy: Fundamentalists typically uphold the belief in the inerrancy or infallibility of the Bible, viewing them as the ultimate authority in matters of faith and practice. Aka Biblicists

•Separatism: Fundamentalist movements may advocate for the separation of believers from secular society or from other religious groups deemed to be impure or heretical.

•Moral Conservatism: Fundamentalists often promote traditional moral values and social norms, opposing practices or lifestyles they perceive as contrary to their religious beliefs.

•Resistance to Change: Fundamentalists are often resistant to change and innovation within religious doctrine or practice, viewing such developments as departures from true faith.

•Intolerance: Fundamentalist groups may exhibit intolerance towards individuals or groups who hold different beliefs or lifestyles, leading to discrimination, ostracism, or even violence towards perceived ā€œoutsidersā€ or ā€œheretics.ā€

•Dogmatism: Fundamentalist ideology tends to promote rigid, inflexible interpretations of religious or ideological principles, discouraging questioning or exploration of alternative viewpoints.

•Anti-intellectualism: Critics argue that fundamentalism can foster distrust or rejection of scientific knowledge, critical thinking, and scholarly inquiry, leading to a rejection of evidence-based reasoning and a preference for simplistic, black-and-white thinking

The concept of scriptural inerrancy is often associated with conservative or evangelical Christian theology, although it has been debated and interpreted in various ways within different theological traditions. Some theologians interpret inerrancy to apply only to matters of faith and salvation, while others extend it to include historical, scientific, and other factual claims made in the Bible.

Critics of scriptural inerrancy argue that it imposes an unrealistic and untenable standard on the Bible, ignoring the complexities of its historical and cultural context and the presence of apparent contradictions or discrepancies within its texts. They suggest that a more nuanced understanding of the Bible’s inspiration and authority is needed, one that acknowledges the human element in its composition and transmission.

Literary Criticism: Critics may approach the Bible as a collection of literary texts rather than divinely inspired scripture. They may analyze its narratives, poetry, and teachings from a literary perspective, examining themes, motifs, and rhetorical techniques without presupposing divine authorship or inspiration.

The authorship of 1 Timothy, along with 2 Timothy and Titus, is a subject of debate among scholars. While traditional Christian belief attributes these letters to the Apostle Paul, some scholars raise questions about their authorship based on linguistic, stylistic, and theological differences compared to Paul’s undisputed letters. These scholars suggest that these letters may have been written by a disciple of Paul or someone writing in Paul’s name.

-Linguistic and Stylistic Differences: Some scholars note that the vocabulary, grammar, and writing style of 1 Timothy differ from Paul’s undisputed letters. They argue that these differences suggest a different authorship or a later date of composition.

-Theological and Ecclesiastical Developments: Critics point out that 1 Timothy contains instructions regarding church organization, leadership qualifications, and pastoral duties that reflect a more developed ecclesiastical structure than was present in Paul’s time. They suggest that these developments may indicate a later date of composition.

  • Analysis of prominent figures in evangelical Christianity, including David Wolcott, Alisha Childers, and Frank Turek, who are associated with right-wing fundamentalism.
  • Exploration of the ideological positions and beliefs espoused by these individuals and their impact on religious communities.
  • Consideration of the broader societal implications of right-wing fundamentalism and its intersection with politics and religion.

10. Conclusion:

  • Summary of emphasizing the importance of addressing abuse and harmful ideologies within religious communities.
  • Call to action for listeners to advocate for accountability and transparency within religious institutions and to support survivors of abuse.
  • Invitation for further exploration of these topics in future episodes of the podcast.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Other resources to consider:

  • “The Bible Tells Me So: Why Defending Scripture Has Made Us Unable to Read It” by Peter Enns – Enns explores how the Bible’s messy and diverse nature challenges the notion of inerrancy and offers a fresh perspective on understanding its authority.
  • “Inspiration and Incarnation: Evangelicals and the Problem of the Old Testament” by Peter Enns – In this book, Enns examines the challenges of reconciling modern scholarship with traditional views of biblical inerrancy, particularly in relation to the Old Testament.
  • “The Evolution of Adam: What the Bible Does and Doesn’t Say about Human Origins” by Peter Enns – Enns explores the theological implications of accepting scientific understandings of human origins while still affirming the authority of scripture.
  • “Misquoting Jesus: The Story Behind Who Changed the Bible and Why” by Bart D. Ehrman – Ehrman explores the history of textual transmission and the ways in which scribes, translators, and interpreters have shaped the biblical text over time, challenging the notion of a perfectly preserved and inerrant scripture.
  • “The Human Faces of God: What Scripture Reveals When It Gets God Wrong (and Why Inerrancy Tries to Hide It)” by Thom Stark – Stark examines instances in the Bible where God’s character and actions appear contradictory or morally problematic, challenging the idea of a completely consistent and inerrant scripture.
  •  The Invention of the Inspired Text: Philological Windows on the Theopneustia of Scripture by John C. Poirier 
  • The Creationist–The evolution of Scientific Creationism by Ronald L. Numbers
  • The Story of Christian Theology by Roger E Olson
  • The Essentials of Christian thought by Olson

I am in the process of ā€œdisentanglingā€ my faith and it feels like vertigo.

Deconstruction is a scary world, but it doesn’t have to be. Deconstruction does not have to mean deconverting.

The deconstruction of Christianity is something I’ve heard of since stepping into the world of theology, but I never thought I’d find myself smack dab in the middle of the movement.

Disentangling or Deconstruction is a phenomenon where individuals, often within the Christian faith, critically reevaluate their beliefs, doctrines, and practices. This process involves questioning and challenging long-held assumptions, teachings, and traditions within Christianity, with the goal of arriving at a more authentic and personally meaningful understanding of faith.

There were numerous aspects that led me to begin unraveling, the real smack upside the head, realizing I was within a spiritual abusive biblical counseling relationship and program, that led me to notice the brutal similarities of abuse within IHOPKC, the scandals within the Grace Community Church & ACBC Biblical/Nouthetic counseling….

Here are some brief insights into the podcast that’ll be dropping on April 30th that’ll convey much more!

  1. Purity Culture – Rick Thomas Podcast Episode:
    • Explore the impact of purity culture on individuals’ beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors regarding sexuality and relationships.
    • Discuss Rick Thomas’s perspective on purity culture and its potential effects on emotional and psychological well-being.
    • Address common criticisms and concerns raised about purity culture, including its emphasis on shame, guilt, and unrealistic expectations.
  2. ACBC Biblical Counseling and John MacArthur Situation:
    • Examine the controversy surrounding the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC) and its leadership, particularly in light of allegations of manipulation and control tactics.
    • Discuss the implications of John MacArthur’s involvement, ACBC and the potential harm caused by authoritarian leadership within religious organizations.
    • Discuss MacArthur’s dismissive response to Wendy’s accusations, the confrontation and revelation of Paul Guay’s abuse, GCC’s inadequate response to the abuse, MacArthur’s involvement and contradictory statements, MacArthur’s public shaming of Eileen Gray, the elders’ dismissal of Gray’s abuse allegations, David Gray’s conviction and MacArthur’s support, Alistair Begg’s controversial advice and MacArthur’s response, and the lack of accountability for MacArthur’s actions.
    • Explore various forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, and spiritual, and the LACK OF ACCOUNTABILITY OR REFORM happening within churches and religious institutions.
    • Ā MacArthur’s views on slavery are HORRIFIC.
    • WHY IS IT protocol for the Church to Put a Marital Rape Victim under Church Discipline?
    • I was enrolled in Change that Sticks an abusive ACBC biblical counseling program that stripped me away of autonomy and treated any mental health condition as SIN that needed to be repented of, and not a real condition. Biblical counseling is dangerous, unethical and immoral.
  3. Rise and Fall of Mars Hill and Mark Driscoll:
    • Analyze the rise and fall of Mars Hill Church and its founder, Mark Driscoll, as documented in the podcast series “The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill.”
    • Examine the leadership style and behavior of Mark Driscoll, including allegations of authoritarianism, bullying, and spiritual abuse.
    • Discuss the lessons learned from the Mars Hill saga and the broader implications for accountability and ethical leadership within religious organizations.
  4. Learning more about Dominion theology & Christian nationalism. They are related but distinct movements within Christianity, both of which emphasize the idea of Christians playing a prominent role in shaping society and culture according to their religious beliefs. Prominent adherents of those ideologies include Calvinist Christian reconstructionism (Doug Wilson, Costi Hinn, John MacArthur, John Piper, Charlie Kirk) Charismatic and Pentecostal Kingdom Now theology, (7 Mountain Mandate) and the New Apostolic Reformation. How insane is it that this conservative group THRIVES on calling out “false Christians” and making a mockery of Pentecostals, while they are part of the very same theology, if not WORSE, because Council of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood/complementarianism is patriarchal and misogynistic at heart, and all of this is connected to the Lordship Salvation controversary (a rabbit hole you need to go down) and my next point:
  5. Nancy’s Pearcy’s book-Toxic War on Masculinity Being Mostly a Lie:
    • Oversimplification of Gender Issues: Critics argue that Pearcey’s book oversimplifies complex gender issues by framing them as a “war on masculinity.” They suggest that this framing perpetuates a binary view of gender and fails to adequately address the diverse experiences and identities of individuals across the gender spectrum.
    • Perpetuating Gender Stereotypes: Critics contend that Pearcey’s characterization of masculinity as under attack reinforces traditional gender stereotypes and norms, which may contribute to harmful social expectations and restricts the freedom of individuals to express their gender identity authentically.
    • Lack of Intersectionality: Some critics argue that Pearcey’s analysis lacks intersectionality, as it fails to consider how factors such as race, class, sexuality, and disability intersect with gender to shape individuals’ experiences and social realities. This omission may result in a limited understanding of the complexity of gender dynamics.
    • Absence of Empirical Evidence: Critics point out that Pearcey’s arguments often rely on anecdotal evidence or selective examples, rather than rigorous empirical research, to support her claims about masculinity. This approach may undermine the credibility of her analysis and limit its applicability to broader social contexts.
    • Ideological Bias: Some critics suggest that Pearcey’s perspective reflects a conservative or right-wing ideological bias, as she tends to frame gender issues within a traditional Christian worldview. This ideological framing may alienate readers with different religious or philosophical beliefs and limit the book’s appeal to a narrow audience.
    • Nancy claimed in the book and on a podcast interview that women’s suffrage was a net loss!!!!! This is part of Dominion Theology
  6. Perspectives shifted of David Wolcott, Alisa Childers, and Frank Turek:
    • We will examine the perspectives of David Wolcott, Alisa Childers, and Frank Turek, who are often associated with right-wing fundamentalist Christianity.
    • Critically evaluate their views on theology, culture, and social issues, and explore the implications of their beliefs on religious discourse and public policy.
    • Consider the diversity of opinions within the Christian community and the need for respectful dialogue and engagement across ideological divides.

and that’s what started this insane rabbit hole I’ve now spent the last 6 weeks researching/reading 5-6 hours day, reading books, watching interviews, studying from biblical scholars outside of my tradition & my mind is truly blown. Pages and pages of notes. Have I settled on anything, NO, I haven’t, but just the fact that I don’t know, is a belief change, and that’s all I can really tell you, right now.

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Exploring the Gray Area: Between Cults and High-Control Environments

Exploring the Gray Area

The distinction between cults and high-control groups can be somewhat nuanced, as both share many characteristics related to manipulation, authoritarianism, and the exertion of control over members.

Exploring the gray area between cults and high-control environments can be challenging due to several factors.

Firstly, defining what constitutes a cult or a high-control environment can be subjective and complex, as there is no universally agreed-upon definition. This ambiguity can make it difficult to draw clear boundaries between the two.

Secondly, both cults and high-control environments often use subtle tactics of manipulation and influence, making it challenging to recognize when individuals are being subjected to undue influence or coercion.

Additionally, individuals within these environments may be deeply invested emotionally, financially, or socially, which can cloud their perception and make it challenging to acknowledge the extent of control exerted over them.

Furthermore, there may be societal stigma or shame associated with admitting involvement in a cult or high-control environment, which can deter individuals from seeking help or speaking out about their experiences.

Here are some key signs of a high control group to look out for:

Navigating the gray area between cults and high-control environments requires careful consideration, empathy, and an understanding of the nuanced dynamics at play. Here is a side-by-side graphic to help demonstrate the similarities and differences:

Understanding high-control environments and the differences between cults is important for several reasons:

  1. Protecting Individuals: High-control environments can exert significant influence over individuals, potentially leading to exploitation, abuse, and manipulation. By understanding the characteristics of these environments, individuals can recognize warning signs and protect themselves and others from harm.
  2. Promoting Awareness: Many people may not realize when they are in a high-control environment or may be hesitant to label their experiences as cult-like. Educating the public about the traits and tactics used in these environments can increase awareness and empower individuals to identify and address problematic situations.
  3. Supporting Recovery: For those who have been involved in high-control environments or cults, understanding the dynamics at play can be crucial for recovery and healing. Recognizing that their experiences were part of a larger pattern of manipulation can validate survivors’ experiences and provide a framework for processing their trauma.
  4. Preventing Recruitment: By raising awareness about the tactics used in high-control environments and cults, communities can work to prevent vulnerable individuals from being recruited or radicalized. This includes providing education and support to those at risk and promoting critical thinking skills to resist manipulation tactics.
  5. Protecting Democratic Values: High-control environments and cults can pose a threat to democratic values such as individual autonomy, freedom of thought, and diversity of belief. Understanding these dynamics is essential for safeguarding democratic principles and promoting social cohesion.

Overall, understanding high-control environments and the differences between cults is essential for protecting individuals, promoting awareness, supporting recovery, preventing recruitment, and safeguarding democratic values.

The Biggest Loser Study-The metabolic consequences of extreme dieting & the weight gain rebound effect

šŸŽ™ļø On this week’s podcast withĀ @chewsfoodwisely, we explore the common question: Is your metabolism broken or adapted? An interesting study that showcases BOTH metabolic adaptation & metabolic efficiency is The Biggest Loser study!


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Our guest, Nicole, a renowned nutrition expert, helps us navigate through the complexities of metabolism and offers insights into understanding how our bodies respond to various factors such as diet, exercise, and lifestyle.

We discuss the differences between a ā€œbrokenā€ metabolism and one that has adapted to environmental influences, as well as practical tips for optimizing metabolic health.

Tune in to our latest podcast episode where we’ll be sharing expert insights, tips, and strategies to revitalize your metabolism and get back on track.



Let’s reclaim your health and crush those goals together! šŸ’ŖšŸ”„

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What are the signs of spiritual gaslighting?

Gaslighting phrases can unfortunately occur in any context, including within religious communities. Here are some examples of common gaslighting phrases that may be used within church settings:

  • “You’re just being too sensitive.”
  • “That’s not what the Bible says.”
  • “You’re questioning God’s will.”
  • “You’re overreacting.”
  • “You must have misunderstood.”
  • “You’re just seeking attention.”
  • “You’re letting the devil deceive you.”
  • “You need to have more faith.”
  • “You’re not praying hard enough.”
  • “You’re making things up.”
  • “You’re being disobedient to God.”
  • “You’re just looking for excuses.”
  • “You’re being divisive.”
  • “You’re being ungrateful.”
  • “You’re causing problems in the church.”

Gaslighting is one of the most misused tools to shut people down and shut them up. In the church, these gaslighting phrases get overlooked because they sound spiritual. The truth is they are just ways to control people, their actions, and the narrative around abusive behaviors. Jesus listened to hurting people, and we must learn how to listen.

It’s important to recognize and address gaslighting behaviors in any context, including within religious communities, to promote healthy and respectful communication.

Listen to Episode 002 of @church_disrupted where they expose toxic gaslighting phrases & behaviors!

Have you experienced gaslighting within the church before?

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IHOPKC-Manipulation, Deception & Spiritual Harm

šŸŽ™ļøEpisode 10 From Falsehood to Freedom: Lessons from a former False Prophetess

This week on the podcast we had Dawn Hill with us who discussed that a HUGE issue with the prophetic prayers and prophetic word movement is the potential for manipulation, deception, and spiritual harm.

I can’t help but to notice the brutal similarities between the approach IHOPKC is taking which is clearly focused on maintaining control and protecting the institution & the scandals within the Grace Community Church & ACBC Biblical/Nouthetic counseling.

If you or anyone you know has experienced abuse or misconduct within IHOPKC or any other religious organization PLEASE be encouraged to seek support, speak out, and report your experiences to appropriate authorities.

SEEK THEN SPEAK – A tool for sexual assault survivors and support people. Visit seekthenspeak.app to fill out a private survey to gather information and consider your next steps.

MOCSA (Metropolitan Organization to Counter S*xual Assault)

Call the crisis hotline at (816) 531-0233 in Missouri or (913) 642-0233 in Kansas.

DRZ Law Call (913) 400-2033 to request a free case evaluation.

BozLaw PA – Now representing victims of IHOPKC
Visit http://www.bozlawpa.com and fill out the form on the website to request a free case evaluation.

International House of Prayer Founder Mike Bickle Accused …… | News & Reporting | Christianity Today

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IHOPKC confirms ā€˜inappropriate behavior,’ announces permanent split with founder Bickle (msn.com)

Woman Says Mike Bickle Used Prophecy to Sexually Abuse Her (julieroys.com)

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