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Weaponized Forgiveness, Institutional Abuse, and Evangelical Justifications for Harm

Forgive and Forget? The Dark Side of Christian Forgiveness Culture

One of the main reasons I left mainstream Christianity is the way forgiveness has been weaponized. It’s used not as a path to healing but as a tool to silence victims, excuse harm, and protect institutions.

Instead of confronting abuse, many churches demand those survivors “forgive as they have been forgiven,” which conveniently shields perpetrators and absolves leadership from responsibility. Nowhere is this clearer than in the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC)—the largest Protestant denomination in the U.S.—which has spent decades covering up abuse while doing the bare minimum to protect children.

What Is the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC)?

The Southern Baptist Convention (SBC) is the largest Protestant denomination in the U.S., with over 47,000 churches and 13 million members as of 2024. Founded in 1845, the SBC split from northern Baptists over slavery and has since maintained a conservative theological stance.

The SBC holds complementarian beliefs, teaching that men and women have distinct, God-ordained roles with male headship in both the church and the home. This doctrine reinforces strict gender hierarchies, contributing to a culture of silence around abuse, particularly when male leaders are involved.

The SBC’s Persistent Failure to Protect Children

Despite its size and influence, the SBC has long failed to protect children from abuse. Recent reports show that only 58% of SBC-affiliated congregations require background checks for staff and volunteers working with children, and in smaller churches, this number drops to just 35%. A past audit revealed 12.5% of background checks flagged criminal histories that could disqualify individuals from church roles. These numbers underscore the SBC’s ongoing failure to address its own scandals.

Even if some churches struggle financially, it’s grossly irresponsible to assume volunteers are qualified without basic screenings. Churches should at the very least implement strict policies and mandatory training on abuse prevention and reporting—but the data proves otherwise.

Source: Southern Baptist Membership Decline Slows, Baptisms and Attendance Grow | Lifeway Research | May 7, 2024

SBC’s Hidden Influence: The Non-Denominational Loophole

Many churches that appear to be “non-denominational” are quietly affiliated with the SBC for financial and structural support. This means:

  • They may not openly use “Southern Baptist” in their name, yet still receive funding, resources, and pastoral training from the SBC.
  • Their leadership and policies often align with SBC doctrine, even if they market themselves as independent.
  • Some SBC-affiliated churches hide their connections to avoid association with the denomination’s abuse scandals, while still benefiting from its network.

This hidden network allows the SBC to maintain significant influence over American evangelicalism, even among those who believe they’re attending independent churches. And when scandals emerge, the denomination claims little accountability over individual churches, even as it continues to fund them.

  • The Guidepost Report (2022) exposed that SBC leadership maintained a secret list of over 700 abusive pastors, shielding them from consequences while survivors were ignored, discredited, or retaliated against.
  • Jennifer Lyell, an SBC abuse survivor, was vilified by church leadership when she came forward. Instead of support, she was publicly shamed, and her abuser faced no consequences.
  • Christa Brown, another survivor, spent years advocating for reform after being assaulted by her youth pastor. The SBC’s response? Stonewalling, gaslighting, and further silencing.

This is not an anomaly. It’s a pattern.

The Hillsong Scandal: A Deep Dive into Leadership, Accountability, and Institutional Culture

Hillsong Church, once hailed as a beacon of contemporary Christianity with its celebrity-driven worship services and massive global influence, has been mired in a series of scandals that have sent shockwaves through the church and beyond. The drama surrounding Hillsong reflects much deeper systemic issues within religious institutions, particularly those that prioritize celebrity culture, financial power, and unchecked leadership.

Brian Houston and His Father’s Abuse Scandal

At the heart of the Hillsong scandal is the case of Brian Houston and his handling of sexual abuse allegations against his father, Frank Houston, a founding member of the Assemblies of God in New Zealand. Frank Houston’s abuse of children became widely known, but Brian Houston’s failure to act—despite being aware of the allegations for decades—has raised serious questions about the church’s culture of secrecy and its prioritization of protecting its leaders over seeking justice for victims.

In 2021, Brian Houston was charged with covering up his father’s abuse, but he was acquitted in 2023. While the legal outcomes may be behind him, the moral and ethical questions surrounding his actions remain. His failure to report the abuse to the authorities and the lack of transparency in how Hillsong handled the situation speaks to the larger issue of institutions shielding leaders from accountability, especially when their actions threaten the church’s public image.

Carl Lentz and Leadership Failures

Another key figure in the Hillsong saga is Carl Lentz, the former lead pastor of Hillsong New York. Lentz’s celebrity status, especially his close relationships with figures like Justin Bieber, elevated him to international fame. But in 2020, Lentz was fired from his position after admitting to an extramarital affair. The church’s response to Lentz’s scandal raised more questions than answers. Hillsong failed to address the broader cultural issues at play—namely, a leadership model built on celebrity culture and a lack of accountability.

The church’s focus on its brand, public image, and the reputations of its leaders made it easier to overlook the toxic dynamics that led to Lentz’s behavior. His fall from grace demonstrated the dangers of elevating leaders to superstar status, where moral accountability is secondary to their influence and popularity.

Financial Mismanagement and Lack of Transparency

Financial scandals have also been a hallmark of Hillsong’s decline. Despite its non-profit status, Hillsong has faced accusations of lavish spending by its leaders, including Brian Houston, and financial mismanagement that prioritized the comfort of senior leaders over the needs of the congregation. Hillsong’s lack of financial transparency has led many to question how donations were being spent, particularly when its leaders were living luxurious lifestyles while the church’s financial practices remained opaque.

Reports have shown that church members had little insight into the church’s budgeting or financial decisions, raising alarms about how donations were being used. This financial opacity has created a culture of distrust, with many questioning whether Hillsong truly operated as a faith-based organization or as a business built around its leaders’ financial gain.

Celebrity Culture and Unchecked Leadership

The rise of Hillsong as a “celebrity church” is a clear example of the dangers of celebrity culture within religious organizations. Leaders like Brian Houston and Carl Lentz became more known for their status than their spiritual leadership. This culture created a disconnect between the mission of the church and the behaviors of those at its helm, fostering an environment where moral failings were excused, and accountability was pushed aside in favor of maintaining the church’s celebrity-driven image.

The celebrity culture at Hillsong is not an isolated phenomenon—many mega-churches and influential religious organizations have succumbed to similar dynamics. Leaders are often viewed as untouchable figures whose actions are excused because of their fame and influence. This lack of accountability has led to repeated scandals and a breakdown in trust between church leadership and their congregations.

A Culture of Silence and Protection

Celebrity culture and the culture of silence are both hallmarks of Christian culture, where forgiveness is weaponized to silence victims and maintain the church’s authority. Survivors who seek accountability are often told they are “bitter” or “holding onto unforgiveness,” while abusers are framed as sinners in need of grace.

This forced-reconciliation model doesn’t just silence victims—it actively enables abusers. Over and over, religious institutions have shielded predators while insisting their victims move on.

  • The Catholic Church sex abuse scandal followed the same pattern—priests were quietly transferred rather than removed.
  • The Southern Baptist Convention (SBC) was exposed in 2022 for covering up hundreds of abuse cases, prioritizing its reputation over protecting the vulnerable.
  • The Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP), made infamous by Shiny Happy People, used its teachings to guilt victims into silence, reinforcing submission as godliness.
  • The Mormon Church (LDS) has been accused of systematically covering up child sexual abuse, instructing bishops to handle cases internally rather than report them to authorities. The “help line” for abuse victims has been exposed as a legal shield to protect the church from liability.
  • Jehovah’s Witnesses have a longstanding pattern of protecting sexual predators under their “two-witness rule,” which requires at least two people to witness abuse for it to be considered valid. This impossible standard allows abusers to go unpunished while victims are shunned for speaking out.

This cycle continues because religious institutions prioritize obedience and reputation over accountability. Instead of advocating for justice, they demand submission—a dynamic that ensures abuse thrives in the shadows, disguised as grace.

The Evangelical Rejection of Modern Psychology

Many evangelicals reject modern psychology, fearing it undermines biblical authority and promotes a so-called “victim mentality.” Books like Bad Therapy are used to discredit trauma-informed approaches, mental health care, and gentle parenting—reinforcing the belief that obedience and submission matter more than emotional well-being.

But this isn’t just about dismissing psychology—it’s about control. Evangelical spaces often use forgiveness as a tool to suppress legitimate pain and absolve abusers of accountability. Instead of being a process that centers the victim’s healing, forgiveness is reframed as an obligation, a test of faith that prioritizes reconciliation over justice.

This kind of messaging pressures survivors into “forgiving and forgetting” under the guise of spiritual growth. As Susan Forward explains in Toxic Parents, this demand for immediate forgiveness often leads to “premature reconciliation,” where the victim is pushed to restore relationships without ever addressing the harm done. She describes how toxic family systems—and by extension, religious institutions—weaponize guilt, framing any resistance to reconciliation as bitterness, rebellion, or even sin. Forward emphasizes that true healing requires acknowledging pain, setting boundaries, and understanding that some relationships are too harmful to maintain. Forgiveness, in this sense, should never be about dismissing harm but about reclaiming personal agency.

Similarly, Pete Walker in The Tao of Fully Feeling critiques how many forgiveness frameworks, particularly those influenced by religious teachings, encourage victims to suppress righteous anger rather than process it. He argues that when people are pressured to forgive too soon, they bypass the necessary emotional work of grief and anger, which are essential steps in healing. Walker describes how survivors of abuse are often gaslit into believing that their pain is an obstacle to their spiritual growth rather than a justified response to harm. In contrast, he advocates for harvesting forgiveness out of blame—a process that allows victims to first fully validate their experiences, express their anger, and grieve their losses before even considering forgiveness. This approach reframes forgiveness as something that should serve the survivor’s well-being rather than the comfort of the perpetrator.

This is why modern psychology takes a different approach. Unlike evangelical teachings that frame forgiveness as a duty, trauma-informed perspectives recognize that forgiveness is a choice—one that should empower the survivor, not burden them with more guilt. True healing requires honoring all emotions, including anger, rather than rushing to absolution for the sake of appearances or religious pressure.

ACBC “Biblical Counseling”: When Religion Overrides Psychology

Another significant issue within certain Christian communities is the rise of the Biblical Counseling movement, particularly through the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC) and its Nouthetic Counseling model. This approach starkly rejects psychological expertise and promotes the belief that biblical wisdom alone is sufficient to address mental health struggles, trauma, and even domestic violence. While this may seem like a spiritual response to real-world issues, it often exacerbates the trauma and leads to harmful advice.

One glaring problem with ACBC counseling is its lack of professional psychological training. Many of its so-called counselors do not possess accredited education in mental health fields. Instead, they rely on an outdated and rigid interpretation of scripture that reduces complex psychological issues to mere spiritual shortcomings. This is particularly dangerous in cases of trauma, mental illness, and domestic violence, where the guidance of trained mental health professionals is crucial.

Additionally, ACBC’s approach often results in victim-blaming, particularly for women who are struggling with abuse or neglect. Rather than providing the resources and support these women need, the movement encourages them to endure hardship with a sense of spiritual submission. This can exacerbate feelings of helplessness and self-blame, which are already prevalent among victims of abuse.

My Experience within ACBC Biblical Counseling

I was involved in a biblical counseling program that reinforced a system of patriarchal control, stifling my autonomy and presenting a distorted view of marriage and gender roles.

One of the most telling moments was when I encountered an excerpt from The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace in one of the workbooks. The list of expectations outlined for a wife to “glorify” her husband was staggering and disempowering. It included directives like:

  1. Organizing cleaning, grocery shopping, laundry, and cooking while fulfilling your “God-given responsibility” so that your husband is free to focus on his work.
  2. Saving some of your energy every day for him.
  3. Prioritizing your husband above children, parents, friends, jobs, Bible studies, etc., and rearranging your schedule whenever necessary to meet his needs.
  4. Speaking positively about him to others and never slandering him—even if what you’re saying is true.
  5. Doing whatever you can to make him look good, from running errands to helping accomplish his goals, while never taking offense if he chooses not to use your suggestions.
  6. Considering his work, goals, hobbies, and religious duties more important than your own.

As I’ve explained, these expectations weren’t just fringe ideas—they were central to the teachings of Biblical Counseling, widely embraced within the Southern Baptist Convention and many non-denominational churches. What I experienced wasn’t just about a partnership; it was about submission—unquestioning and absolute. The woman’s role was essentially to serve her husband’s needs and desires, no matter the cost to her own identity or autonomy.

But perhaps one of the most chilling aspects of this program was a statement that underscored the complete denial of personal rights. The workbook stated that humble people have “no rights” in Christ—only responsibilities. It referenced Philippians 2:3-8 to justify this perspective.

Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.

The workbook then presented a list of “rights” that were seen as sinful or selfish to claim in this context. Some of the rights included:

  • The right to control personal belongings
  • The right to privacy
  • The right to express personal opinions
  • The right to earn and use money
  • The right to plan your own schedule
  • The right to respect
  • The right to be married, protected, appreciated, desired, and treated fairly
  • The right to travel, to have a good education, to be beautiful

There were over thirty items on this list. This wasn’t just a list of personal sacrifices; it was a grooming tool that laid the groundwork for further abuse and manipulation under the guise of spiritual obedience.

These teachings were not about partnership, love, or mutual respect. They were about control, and they left no room for the dignity and rights of individuals, especially women.

If you want to dive deeper into the power dynamics at play in these teachings, I highly recommend listening to this podcast that breaks down the power play behind these ideologies.

A study on women’s anger found that common triggers for anger in women include feelings of helplessness, not being listened to, perceived injustice, and the irresponsibility of others. Instead of addressing these genuine concerns, ACBC’s authoritarian approach often pushes women to submit further, casting aside their voices and their safety in favor of a misguided spiritual ideal. This not only exacerbates their mental health but creates an environment ripe for spiritual abuse.

Corporal Punishment and Legal Definitions of Abuse

A major component of ACBC’s teachings also intersects with the controversial use of corporal punishment, where a thin line between discipline and abuse is often blurred. In some evangelical communities, particularly those influenced by ACBC’s authoritarian doctrines, corporal punishment is defended as a necessary part of biblical discipline, despite overwhelming legal and psychological evidence that physical discipline can have long-term harmful effects.

One of the most enduring arguments for corporal punishment is the misquoted phrase, “Spare the rod, spoil the child.” However, this phrase does not originate from the Bible. It comes from a 17th-century satirical poem by Samuel Butler, Hudibras. Despite this, it continues to be used in evangelical circles to justify spanking, whipping, and other forms of physical punishment.

The Bible passages often cited to defend corporal punishment—Proverbs 13:24, 22:15, 23:13-14, 29:15, and Hebrews 12:5-13—are frequently interpreted in a rigid, literal manner by proponents of corporal punishment. However, this literal approach is a key part of what historian Mark Noll refers to as “the scandal of the evangelical mind.” This narrow hermeneutic reflects a resistance to modern biblical criticism, science, and intellectual inquiry. It prioritizes a literal interpretation of scripture without considering the historical, cultural, and literary context of these texts. As a result, the teachings of scripture are applied in ways that disregard the broader ethical and psychological implications of corporal punishment.

Despite the continued justification for corporal punishment in these circles, modern research overwhelmingly shows its harmful effects. Studies indicate that physical discipline can lead to increased aggression, mental health issues, and weakened parent-child relationships. Yet, many evangelicals remain unwilling to reconsider this harmful tradition, which reflects a broader resistance within conservative Christianity to engage with contemporary understandings of psychology, trauma recovery, and legal definitions of abuse.

To clarify what constitutes abuse, Congress enacted the Federal Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA) in 1974, defining physical abuse as:

The infliction of physical injuries such as bruises, burns, welts, cuts, bone and skull fractures, caused by kicking, punching, biting, beating, knifing, strapping, and paddling.

Despite this clear legal definition, corporal punishment remains legal in all 50 states, with 19 states still allowing paddling in schools. This creates a disturbing disconnect: what is considered child abuse in some settings (such as foster care) is still widely accepted in evangelical homes and schools, even when it causes lasting harm to children.

This tension highlights the problematic nature of ACBC’s teachings, which sometimes encourage discipline methods that can be classified as abusive under legal definitions. Rather than fostering healthy relationships between parents and children, these practices often reinforce cycles of harm and emotional neglect, contributing to the very psychological issues ACBC claims to address. The refusal to acknowledge these realities creates a fertile ground for continued spiritual and psychological abuse.

The Case of John MacArthur and Grace Community Church (GCC)

One of the most disturbing examples of ACBC counseling practices, combined with the authoritarian culture it fosters, can be seen in the actions of John MacArthur, the pastor of Grace Community Church in Sun Valley, California, and his church’s mishandling of abuse allegations.

MacArthur has long been a proponent of the Nouthetic Counseling model, promoting a brand of counseling that prioritizes submission and forgiveness above all else, even in cases of serious abuse. One such case involves Eileen Gray, a woman who endured severe abuse at the hands of her husband, David Gray, while seeking help from Grace Community Church. Instead of providing support or professional counseling, Eileen was told by church leaders that seeking outside help was “worldly” and wrong.

Eileen’s testimony reveals the disturbing practices within GCC, where she was repeatedly told to forgive her abuser even if he was not repentant. Pastor Carey Hardy, a close associate of MacArthur, allegedly taught Eileen the “threefold promise of forgiveness”—a concept detailed in a booklet by MacArthur himself. According to this model, forgiveness means acting as though the abuse never happened, never bringing it up again, and never sharing it with others. This approach not only trivializes the severity of abuse but also places the onus on the victim to endure suffering for the sake of forgiveness and spiritual purity.

What is perhaps most alarming is the pressure placed on Eileen to allow David back into the home and “model for the children how to suffer for Jesus.” Eileen was told to accept her husband’s abuse and, in a deeply misguided view, to make her children witness this suffering as an example of Christian resilience. When Eileen refused to allow her children to be exposed to further abuse, she was met with resistance and intimidation.

The Revelation of Abuse and MacArthur’s Dismissal

Despite Eileen’s pleas for help, GCC’s response was woefully inadequate. When Eileen eventually sought counsel from Alvin B. Barber, a pastor who had officiated her marriage, Barber corroborated her account of the abusive counseling she had received from Hardy. Barber’s testimony was a damning indictment of both Hardy and the church’s leadership, as he described how Eileen was told to submit to her abuser and accept the abuse as part of her spiritual journey.

Eileen’s refusal to allow her children to remain in an abusive environment ultimately led her to request removal from the church’s membership. However, in a shocking display of disregard for her safety and well-being, Grace Community Church denied her request and continued to maintain her as a member, further compounding the trauma she had already experienced.

In the wake of these revelations, MacArthur’s involvement in the case became a point of contention. While MacArthur publicly denounced David Gray’s actions and supported his conviction, he simultaneously failed to hold his own leadership accountable for their role in enabling the abuse. MacArthur’s contradictory statements and lack of transparency in addressing the failures of his church’s leadership reflect a deeper systemic issue within his ministry: a prioritization of church authority and reputation over the safety and well-being of its members.

The Larger Implications: Spiritual Abuse and Lack of Accountability

The case of Eileen Gray is far from an isolated incident. It highlights a pattern within certain corners of the evangelical church, where women’s voices are silenced, and their suffering is minimized in favor of preserving a theological ideal that values submission and suffering over justice and healing. This pattern can lead to widespread spiritual abuse, where individuals are subjected to harmful advice and counseling that prioritizes conformity over personal well-being.

Furthermore, the lack of accountability for church leaders like John MacArthur, who have enormous influence in evangelical circles, contributes to the perpetuation of this toxic culture. By refusing to acknowledge the harmful consequences of ACBC-style counseling and the dismissive responses to abuse victims, MacArthur and others in positions of power not only fail to protect the vulnerable but also send a message that spiritual authority trumps the dignity and safety of individuals.

In the case of John MacArthur’s response to abuse allegations within his church, we see a chilling example of how religious institutions, under the guise of biblical wisdom, can cause immense harm. Eileen Gray’s story is a reminder of the dangers of theological systems that prioritize submission, forgiveness, and authority without regard for the trauma and suffering of individuals.

As these abuses come to light, it’s essential to continue challenging the status quo and demand greater accountability from religious leaders and organizations that have long been able to operate with impunity. Victims of spiritual abuse must be heard, and their stories must be validated, not dismissed or ignored.

The Bigger Picture: Power, Control, and the Misuse of Forgiveness

Whether we’re talking about institutional abuse, forced forgiveness, corporal punishment, or the rejection of psychology, the common denominator is control.

Evangelicals often claim that therapy “makes people feel like victims”, yet they embrace an even bigger victim narrative—the belief that Christians are under attack, that psychology is a threat, and that questioning church authority is dangerous.

Modern psychology isn’t perfect. Some aspects can promote excessive victimhood narratives. But that doesn’t mean psychology is inherently bad.

What we need is balance:

  • Healing that acknowledges real harm without trapping people in a victim identity.
  • Forgiveness as a choice, not a weapon.
  • Accountability for abusers, not silence for survivors.

Forgiveness should never be used to:

❌ Silence victims

❌ Excuse abuse

❌ Bypass justice

Discipline should never be an excuse for violence.
Faith should never be a shield for abusers.

Final Thoughts

Leaving mainstream Christianity wasn’t about rejecting faith—it was about rejecting an abusive system that prioritizes power over people.

If the church truly cared about justice, it would:

✔️ Prioritize abuse prevention over “cheap grace.”
✔️ Hold abusers accountable instead of demanding forced forgiveness.
✔️ Recognize that psychology isn’t a threat—but unchecked religious authority is.

It’s time to stop justifying harm in the name of God.

If you’re questioning a church’s affiliation with the Southern Baptist Convention (SBC), here are a few ways to check:

  • Ask directly—but be aware that some churches may downplay or obscure their affiliation.
  • Look for “Great Commission Baptists”—a rebranded term used by some SBC churches to distance themselves from controversy.
  • Use the SBC church locator tool online.
  • Investigate whether the church’s pastors were trained at SBC seminaries (e.g., Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary).

But here’s the thing: A new approach is emerging—one that focuses on community-driven solutions to address the consequences of institutional failures. Transparency, accountability, and education are now essential for organizations to operate ethically in the 21st century.

As these movements grow, it’s clear that change is happening. If you’re interested in exploring these shifts, especially within religious institutions, check out the upcoming docuseries dropping this Easter Sunday. It will dive deep into the pressing need for institutional reform, highlighting the intersection of religious nonprofits and the modern world. The series will explore the ethical, financial, and leadership issues many faith-based organizations face today. For more information, visit The Religion Business.

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From Burnout to Breakthrough:  Healing, Art, and Resilience with Katherine Spearing

🎙️ Welcome Back! Join me as I chat with Katherine Spearing, MA, CTRC — founder of Tears of Eden 🌸, a nonprofit supporting survivors of spiritual abuse, and former host of the groundbreaking Uncertain podcast 🎧. Katherine is also the host of Trauma & Pop Culture, a Certified Trauma Recovery Practitioner 🧠, and an expert in helping those who have survived cults, high-control environments, and sexual abuse 💔. She even offers specialized trauma-informed career coaching 💼!

In this episode, we discuss: 💡 The most impactful themes from Uncertain — including her powerful episode with Dr. Laura Anderson on anger 😡 and the concept of second-wave fundamentalism. 🎭 How creative arts therapies are aiding survivors of sexual abuse in their healing journey, and how these methods differ from traditional therapy 🎨. 🛑 Managing the emotional weight of working with spiritual abuse survivors and Katherine’s personal journey to avoid burnout 🧘‍♀️. 👩‍🎤 Challenging traditional gender roles in Christianity — how they’ve shaped perceptions of women’s worth and agency, and steps for creating more inclusive spaces 🚺. 🛡️ Building healthy community dynamics to protect against spiritual abuse while fostering authentic, supportive connections 🌱. 🔥 A sneak peek into Katherine’s upcoming book on spiritual abuse, including why the church is so obsessed with sex 💭.

Tune in now for an insightful conversation on healing, resilience, and challenging the status quo! 🗣️✨

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Empower Your Healing Journey: The Diabolical Trinity Book Review

🌟 Book Review Alert! 🌟 This week’s podcast guest, Dr. Mark Gregory Karris, dives deep into religious trauma with his eye-opening book, “The Diabolical Trinity: Healing Religious Trauma from Original Sin, a Wrathful God, and Tormenting Hell.” 📚✨

Struggling with the remnants of religious fear and guilt? Dr. Karris’s insights are a game-changer. Swipe ➡️ to uncover why this book is a must-read for anyone on a healing journey.

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Dr. Mark Gregory Karris’s “The Diabolical Trinity: Healing Religious Trauma from a Wrathful God, Tormenting Hell, and Sinful Self” is a groundbreaking exploration of the psychological and emotional toll of harmful religious doctrines. Drawing from his extensive experience as a licensed therapist and ordained pastor, Karris skillfully dissects the “Diabolical Trinity”—the doctrines of a wrathful God, eternal torment in hell, and pervasive self-condemnation.

A Fresh Perspective on Religious Trauma

Dr. Mark’s has a compassionate and insightful approach to a topic often shrouded in silence and stigma. His work is praised for providing a fresh perspective on religious trauma, moving beyond mere critique to offer tangible steps toward healing. Karris’s ability to blend scholarly rigor with heartfelt empathy makes the book accessible to both academic and general audiences.

Empowering & Transformative

One of the most celebrated aspects of “The Diabolical Trinity” is Karris’s focus on empowerment. Critics have highlighted how the book not only identifies the sources of trauma but also provides practical tools for recovery. Karris’s therapeutic techniques and exercises are designed to help readers reclaim their sense of self-worth and foster a healthier, more compassionate spiritual outlook.

Critique & Redemption

While Karris does not shy away from critiquing harmful religious doctrines, he does so with a redemptive vision. He challenges readers to rethink their understanding of God, hell, and sin, offering an alternative that is both theologically sound and psychologically healing. This balanced approach has been particularly praised by critics who value both the deconstruction and reconstruction of faith.

Engaging & Accessible

The book’s engaging narrative style has also been a point of praise. Karris weaves personal anecdotes with clinical case studies, creating a compelling and relatable read. His clear and concise writing ensures that complex theological and psychological concepts are easily understood, making the book suitable for a wide audience.

Conclusion

In “The Diabolical Trinity,” Dr. Mark Gregory Karris offers a powerful and necessary contribution to the conversation on religious trauma. His work stands out for its depth of insight, practical guidance, and hopeful vision for healing. For anyone grappling with the damaging effects of rigid religious doctrines, this book provides a beacon of light and a path toward wholeness.

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Religion, Emotion Suppression & Emotional Health

Anger itself isn’t fundamentally a sin; it’s a normal human emotion. However, as many of you know, I experienced spiritual abuse through ACBC Biblical counseling, also known as Nouthetic Counseling. This form of counseling, frequently used by the high-control religion I was part of, often employs various tactics to manipulate individuals into suppressing their anger.

High control religions often manipulate individuals against feeling anger by employing several tactics:
1. **Guilt and Shame**: They teach that anger is sinful or a sign of personal weakness, inducing guilt and shame in individuals who feel it.

2. **Doctrine and Indoctrination**: They emphasize doctrines that label anger as negative or spiritually harmful, encouraging followers to suppress it.

3. **Surveillance and Confession**: Constant surveillance and confession practices make individuals self-police their emotions, including anger.

4. **Isolation**: Isolating individuals from outside influences that might validate their feelings, keeping them within an echo chamber that reinforces the group’s views.

5. **Emotional Suppression**: Promoting emotional suppression as a virtue, advocating for calmness and forgiveness in all situations, often to the detriment of the individual’s mental health. 

These methods can deeply impact personal autonomy and emotional well-being, making it difficult for individuals to express or even recognize their anger.

In many religious and philosophical traditions, it’s acknowledged that feeling anger is a normal part of human experience. What can make anger sinful or morally problematic is how one responds to it and the actions it provokes.

The philosopher Aristotle described anger as a passion that, when experienced and expressed appropriately, can be virtuous.

The key is to be angry for the right reasons and in the right way.

Anger is understood as a normal emotional response to perceived threats or injustices. It’s part of the body’s natural fight-or-flight response and can be constructive when it motivates problem-solving and assertiveness.

Yet, High control religions often manipulate feelings of anger by framing them as sinful or spiritually harmful. They may discourage members from expressing anger or dissent, promoting instead the idea of forgiveness and submission to authority. Additionally, they may use guilt or shame to suppress anger, portraying it as a sign of weakness or lack of faith.

In extreme cases, anger may be labeled as a tool of the devil or a hindrance to spiritual growth, further reinforcing control over members’ emotions.

Suppressing anger can lead to negative health effects and mental distress, while constructive expression of anger can lead to positive change and resolution of conflicts.

Gender Roles & Expectations

  • Boys: Anger is often viewed as a more acceptable and natural response. They are frequently socialized to see anger as a sign of strength or assertiveness.

This can lead to a normalization of more aggressive behaviors and a lack of encouragement to explore other emotional responses.

  • Girls: In contrast, girls are often discouraged from expressing anger and are instead encouraged to use “nicer voices” or to remain calm and composed.

This reinforces traditional gender roles that value submissiveness, agreeableness, and emotional labor from women.

  • From a young age, girls are socialized to prioritize the needs of others and maintain harmony in relationships. Being assertive or expressing anger can be seen as disruptive to these social expectations.
  • Boys, on the other hand, might not receive the same level of guidance on emotional regulation, particularly concerning emotions like vulnerability or sadness, which are often socially discouraged in males.
  • From a young age, girls are socialized to prioritize the needs of others and maintain harmony in relationships. Being assertive or expressing anger can be seen as disruptive to these social expectations.
  • Boys, on the other hand, might not receive the same level of guidance on emotional regulation, particularly concerning emotions like vulnerability or sadness, which are often socially discouraged in males.

Long-term Consequences:

The reinforcement of these gender roles can perpetuate a cycle where men and women struggle with different aspects of emotional health. Men might face challenges in expressing vulnerability, while women might struggle with assertiveness and setting boundaries.

In professional and personal relationships, these dynamics can lead to power imbalances and communication issues, affecting everything from career advancement to personal satisfaction.

The way anger and other emotions are socially regulated based on gender reinforces traditional gender roles and affects the emotional development of individuals.

Recognizing and addressing these biases can lead to healthier emotional expressions and relationships for both men and women.

Sources:

Fierce Self compassion by Kristin Neff, PhD

Survey of Communication Study/Chapter 13 – Gender Communication – Wikibooks, open books for an open world

Exploring how religion suppresses emotions involves examining religious teachings, cultural practices, and the interpretation of sacred texts. Here are some resources that delve into this topic from various perspectives:

Books:

  1. “The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love” by bell hooks
    • This book discusses how cultural norms, often influenced by religious teachings, shape the emotional lives of men, encouraging the suppression of vulnerability and emotional expression.
  2. “Emotion and Religion: A Critical Assessment and Annotated Bibliography” by John Corrigan
    • This comprehensive work explores the complex relationship between emotion and religion, providing both theoretical discussions and annotated references for further research.
  3. “Holy Tears: Weeping in the Religious Imagination” edited by Kimberley Christine Patton and John Stratton Hawley
    • This collection of essays examines the role of tears and emotional expression in various religious traditions, offering insights into how certain emotions are both encouraged and suppressed.
  4. “The Varieties of Religious Experience” by William James
    • Although an older text, James’ exploration of religious experiences includes discussions on how different religions view and handle emotions, including suppression.

Articles:

  1. “Emotion Regulation in Religious Contexts” by Edward R. Canda in the Journal of Religion and Health
    • This article examines how religious contexts influence emotional regulation, including both the suppression and expression of emotions.
  2. “Religious Influences on Emotion Regulation” by Richard S. Lazarus in the book “Handbook of Emotions”
    • This chapter discusses how different religious traditions guide the regulation of emotions, often promoting certain emotions while suppressing others.
  3. “Religiosity and Emotion Regulation” by Charlotte van Schie and Michiel van Elk in Frontiers in Psychology
    • This research article explores how religiosity influences emotional regulation strategies, including suppression.

Academic Papers and Theses:

  1. “Emotion Suppression in Religion: A Study of Christian, Jewish, and Muslim Communities”
    • This thesis (or dissertation) might be found through university libraries and explores how different religious communities approach emotion suppression.
  2. “The Role of Religion in Emotion Regulation: Insights from a Psychological Perspective” by Kevin L. Ladd and Bernard Spilka in the International Journal for the Psychology of Religion
    • This paper provides a psychological perspective on how religious beliefs and practices affect emotional regulation, including suppression.

Online Resources:

  1. Pew Research Center: Religion & Public Life
    • Pew Research often publishes studies and reports on the intersection of religion and various aspects of life, including emotional health and expression.
  2. Psychology Today: Religion and Spirituality
    • This section of the Psychology Today website features articles on how religion impacts emotional well-being, including the suppression of emotions.
  3. The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy: “Emotion in Christian Philosophy”
    • This entry explores how Christian philosophy has historically viewed emotions and their expression or suppression.

These resources offer a broad overview of how different religious traditions and interpretations can influence the suppression of emotions. They provide insights from psychological, sociological, and theological perspectives.

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From Conspiracy to Cult–How I was recruited into high control religion.

Hey hey Truth seekers! Welcome back to Taste of Truth Tuesdays. It’s Megan Leigh here, your host, and today we’re mixing up our usual bite-sized conversations on fitness, nutrition, mindset, and spirituality with something a little different. Buckle up, because we’re diving headfirst into the fascinating (and sometimes unsettling) world of end-times obsession and its connection to conspiracy theories.

This season, we’re all about unpacking trends, debunking myths, and delivering practical tips for living a healthier, more balanced life. But today, we’re taking a detour. Have you ever found yourself tumbling down the rabbit hole of radical ideologies or swept up in the fervor of religious conversion? If so, you’re not alone. In fact, during the pandemic, I saw firsthand how deeply conspiracies and religious movements can intertwine, drawing people in with promises of belonging, purpose, and empowerment.

Picture this: it’s the height of the pandemic. Isolation, uncertainty, and fear are at an all-time high. Suddenly, conspiracy theories start to feel less like fringe ideas and more like a secret society offering answers and clarity. For many, including myself, this seductive pull can lead straight into the arms of cult-like dynamics. Let’s rewind a bit so I can share my journey.

Read more here: https://taste0ftruth.com/2024/07/10/the-crunchy-to-alt-right-pipeline-from-wellness-to-extremism/

From 2016 to 2020, I was caught in the grip of multi-level marketing (MLM) schemes. You know the ones—alluring promises of financial freedom and community, flashy products that claim to change your life but often come with unrealistic body standards and toxic relationships with food. At the time, I was searching for connection and a sense of control, but instead, I found myself hooked like a fish on a line, reeled into a world that felt more like a trap the deeper I went.

Now it’s 2020, the beginning of the pandemic, and I found myself knee-deep in conspiracy theories faster than you can say “tin foil hat.” Before I knew it, I was lured into the clutches of a high-control religion, complete with charismatic leaders and an intense “us versus them” mentality. Are you buckled up, folks? Good, because we’re about to embark on a wild ride through the intriguing world of religious prophecy, biblical interpretations, and the end-times obsession that has everyone talking.

Imagine modern American culture—a melting pot of beliefs and ideologies—stirred up with a hefty dose of religious prophecy. For centuries, Christians have been captivated by the idea of the apocalypse, with theological discussions diving deep into the mysterious realms of biblical prophecy. But hold onto your hats, because things have kicked into high gear in recent times. By “recent,” I mean the last 100-200 years. Evangelical Christians, in particular, have cranked their confidence levels to 11, interpreting every hiccup in current events as a surefire sign that the end is near.

Let’s rewind a little to the 19th century. This was a time of upheaval and change, where discoveries in science and historical criticism were turning the world on its head. This era sparked a renewed fervor for interpreting religious texts through a literal lens—a trend that still echoes today. Critics of the literal hermeneutic argue that it can be overly simplistic and fails to account for the complexities and nuances of ancient texts. They contend that a purely literal interpretation can overlook metaphorical or symbolic meanings, cultural contexts, and the evolving nature of language over time. Additionally, critics suggest that such an approach may lead to fundamentalism and rigid dogmatism rather than a deeper understanding of the text.

The lie of Biblical Inerrancy

And let’s not forget about the false doctrine of biblical inerrancy, another shiny new invention from the 19th century. Rogers and McKim argued that the Princeton theologians of the 19th and early 20th centuries, most notably B.B. Warfield, created the doctrine of inerrancy, which teaches that the Bible is entirely without error in all that it affirms. This little gem teaches that the Bible is without error—a claim that’s got more holes than a block of Swiss cheese. By focusing so heavily on inerrancy, proponents often miss the deeper, more nuanced messages these texts are trying to convey. 🚩🚩Read my blog: Rethinking biblical inerrancy.

Since the publication of C.I. Scofield’s edition of the King James Version in 1909, premillennial dispensationalism came to dominate evangelical thought. Premillennial Dispensationalism is a Christian theological perspective that combines premillennialism with dispensationalism. Here’s a breakdown of the components:

Premillennialism: This is the belief that Jesus Christ will return to Earth before (pre-) a thousand-year period of peace and righteousness known as the Millennium. According to premillennialists, the Second Coming of Christ will precede this millennial reign, during which Christ will physically rule on Earth.

Dispensationalism: This is a framework for interpreting the Bible that divides history into distinct periods or “dispensations.” Each dispensation is seen as a specific way in which God interacts with humanity. Dispensationalists typically identify seven such periods, ranging from the time of innocence in the Garden of Eden to the millennial kingdom and beyond.

When combined, Premillennial Dispensationalism holds that:

  • We are currently living in a dispensation known as the “Church Age,” which will end with the rapture of the church, where believers are taken up to meet Christ in the air.
  • This event will be followed by a seven-year period of tribulation, characterized by widespread suffering and the rise of the Antichrist.
  • At the end of the tribulation, Christ will return to Earth to defeat the forces of evil in the Battle of Armageddon.
  • Following this, Christ will establish His millennial kingdom, reigning for a thousand years of peace and justice.
  • After the Millennium, there will be a final rebellion, followed by the last judgment and the creation of a new heaven and a new earth.

Influence on Evangelical and Fundamentalist Thought

Widespread Adoption: The Scofield Reference Bible became a staple in many evangelical and fundamentalist seminaries, churches, and homes, solidifying dispensationalism’s dominance in American evangelicalism.

Theological Education: Institutions such as Dallas Theological Seminary, including prominent figures like Dwight Pentecost and John F. Walvoord, and Moody Bible Institute became centers for dispensationalist teaching, training generations of pastors, theologians, and missionaries.

Popular Culture: Dispensationalist ideas have permeated popular culture, particularly through books like Hal Lindsey’s “The Late Great Planet Earth” and the “Left Behind” series by Tim LaHaye and Jerry B. Jenkins, which present fictionalized accounts of the rapture and tribulation period.

Political Influence: Dispensationalist beliefs have influenced the political views of many evangelicals, particularly regarding support for the state of Israel, which is seen as a fulfillment of biblical prophecy.

Dispensationalist beliefs have significantly influenced the political views of many evangelicals, particularly regarding support for the state of Israel, which is seen as a fulfillment of biblical prophecy. This theological perspective interprets the establishment of Israel in 1948 as a pivotal event in God’s prophetic timeline, intensifying evangelical support for Israel in both religious and political spheres.

Historical Context and Political Engagement

The late 20th century marked a shift from evangelical separatism to active political engagement, notably through the emergence of the Christian Right. Influential figures like Jerry Falwell, founder of the Moral Majority in 1979, emphasized unwavering support for Israel, viewing its existence as central to divine prophecy. Falwell’s trips to Israel, sponsored by the Israeli government, underscored this commitment, and he became a prominent advocate for pro-Israel U.S. foreign policy.

This period also saw the rise of dispensationalist literature, such as Hal Lindsey’s “The Late Great Planet Earth,” which linked contemporary events to biblical prophecies, further galvanizing evangelical support for Israel. Such works suggested that geopolitical developments involving Israel were direct fulfillments of scripture, reinforcing the theological imperative to support the Jewish state.

Contemporary Political Influence

In recent years, dispensationalist beliefs continue to shape evangelical political perspectives. Support for Israel remains a pivotal issue, often influencing voting patterns and policy advocacy. For instance, during the 2024 U.S. presidential election, evangelical leaders emphasized the importance of backing Israel, equating it with other core issues like pro-life advocacy. Ralph Reed, founder of the Faith and Freedom Coalition, stated that support for Israel rivals pro-life issues in evangelical importance, highlighting the enduring impact of dispensationalist theology on political priorities.

Furthermore, political figures have recognized and appealed to this demographic. Former President Donald Trump, for example, acknowledged the strong support for Israel among evangelical Christians, noting that “Christians love Israel more than Jews.” This statement reflects the deep-seated theological convictions that drive evangelical support for Israel, rooted in dispensationalist interpretations of biblical prophecy.

Critiques and Considerations

While dispensationalist-driven support for Israel is significant, it is not without controversy. My concern here is that such theological perspectives can lead to uncritical political alliances, potentially overlooking complex geopolitical realities and ethical considerations. The intertwining of religious prophecy with foreign policy raises questions about the implications of basing political decisions on specific theological interpretations.

Dispensationalist beliefs have profoundly influenced evangelical political views, particularly regarding support for Israel. This theological framework interprets the modern state of Israel as a fulfillment of biblical prophecy, driving political engagement and shaping policy advocacy among evangelicals.

One of the telltale signs of this belief is the date-setting historicism of figures like Hal Lindsey (which I mentioned on my testimony podcast episode, if you remember) who identify current events as the fulfillment of biblical prophecies. Here are a few more examples to watch out for! 🚩

  • David Jeremiah: Senior pastor of Shadow Mountain Community Church and author of several books on prophecy and end times, Jeremiah is a well-known contemporary dispensationalist preacher.
  • Chuck Missler: Chuck Missler (1934-2018) was a prominent figure in evangelical Christian circles, known for his deep and often controversial insights into biblical prophecy and end times. He was the founder of Koinonia House, a ministry dedicated to providing biblical teaching through various media.
    • Key Points about Chuck Missler:
      • Biblical Prophecy and Eschatology: Missler was well-known for his detailed studies on the book of Revelation and other prophetic scriptures.
      • Integration of Science and Scripture: He often discussed topics like quantum physics, extraterrestrial life, and the technological advancements in relation to biblical texts, aiming to show that modern science supports the Bible. 🚩
      • Controversial Views: His unconventional perspectives sometimes placed him on the fringes of mainstream evangelical thought, making him a figure of interest in conspiracy theory circles.
      • Promoted by Conspiracy Pages: Missler’s work has found a following among conspiracy theorist communities, including social media accounts like kingkat2.0.
  • Thomas Ice: Executive Director of the Pre-Trib Research Center, Ice is a prominent scholar and proponent of dispensational premillennialism.
  • Dave Hunt: Known for his critical works on Catholicism, mysticism, and New Age practices, Hunt was an influential figure in evangelical circles. His books often weave biblical prophecy with contemporary events, painting a picture of a world on the brink of divine judgment. 🚩 Hunt’s tendency to overemphasize conspiratorial themes, such as connections between the Vatican and global control, exemplifies the merging of theological and speculative narratives.

So, what’s the bottom line?

These ideologies offer a simplistic worldview where believers feel part of an exclusive group with hidden knowledge and a righteous mission from the big guy upstairs. Conspiracies can provide a framework for interpreting the world and understanding perceived injustices or challenges. They often exploit feelings of fear, uncertainty, and distrust, portraying religious or ideological adversaries as sinister forces working against the believer’s values.

As someone who has walked this path, I want to shed light on how these patterns develop and how we can break free from their grip. In today’s episode, we’ll explore the tactics that draw people into these worlds, the warning signs to watch for, and most importantly, how to reclaim your sense of self and create a balanced, fulfilling life beyond the allure of quick fixes and easy answers.

So, whether you’re curious about the psychology behind these phenomena or looking to make sense of your own experiences, this episode is for you. Together, we’ll unravel the mysteries of these enticing yet dangerous dynamics, one thread at a time.

Whether it’s an MLM, a conspiracy theory, or a religious sect, they all have one thing in common—they thrive on manipulation and exploitation. 😈 From emotional vulnerabilities to charismatic leaders who skillfully manipulate followers, these groups use tactics designed to control and exploit individuals for their own gain.

They often prey on people’s fears, insecurities, and desires for belonging, creating an environment where critical thinking is suppressed, and loyalty is demanded. By promising quick solutions, ultimate truths, or exclusive knowledge, they ensnare individuals into cycles of dependence and obedience, all while profiting from their followers’ dedication and sacrifice.

High control religions often employ a variety of psychological techniques that can be categorized as brainwashing to maintain control over their members. These methods can be understood through the following key strategies:

1. Isolation

  • Physical Isolation: Members may be encouraged or required to live in communal settings away from the outside world, reducing their exposure to differing opinions.
  • Social Isolation: Members are often discouraged from associating with outsiders, including family and friends who are not part of the religion, leading to an echo chamber effect.

2. Control of Information

  • Censorship: Access to information, particularly from outside sources, is heavily restricted. Members are often told to avoid books, websites, and media that might criticize or contradict the group’s teachings.
  • Propaganda: The group provides a controlled flow of information that consistently reinforces its beliefs and practices. This includes frequent meetings, sermons, and literature that promote the group’s ideology.

3. Induced Dependency

  • Emotional Dependency: The group fosters a sense of dependency by portraying itself as the sole source of spiritual truth and salvation. Leaving the group is often presented as leading to spiritual ruin or eternal damnation.
  • Economic Dependency: Members might be financially dependent on the group through communal living, shared resources, or expectations to donate a significant portion of their income.

4. Manipulation of Emotions

  • Fear and Guilt: High control religions often use fear tactics, such as threats of punishment, divine retribution, or ostracism, to maintain control. Guilt is also used to manipulate members into conforming to group norms and practices.
  • Love Bombing: New members often receive an overwhelming amount of attention and affection, creating a sense of belonging and making them more receptive to the group’s influence.

5. Cognitive Dissonance

  • Conflicting Information: The group may present conflicting doctrines or teachings that create cognitive dissonance. Members are then encouraged to resolve this dissonance by accepting the group’s explanation or by attributing any doubts to their own lack of faith or understanding.
  • Repetitive Messaging: Constant repetition of the group’s ideology helps to internalize beliefs, making it harder for members to question or think critically about them.

6. Control of the Environment

  • Regulation of Environment: The group regulates the environment of its members through strict schedules, rituals, and practices. This control extends to aspects of daily life, including diet, dress, sleep, and social interactions.
  • Totalist Doctrine: The group’s doctrine is presented as the absolute and only truth. Any dissent or deviation is harshly punished or suppressed.

7. Loss of Identity OR Identity Confusion

  • Role Confusion: Members are often given new identities or roles that are closely tied to the group’s ideology. This can include new names, titles, or responsibilities that align with the group’s goals.
  • Erosion of Personal Boundaries: Personal boundaries are often dissolved, with the group demanding complete loyalty and submission to its leaders and teachings.

8. Exploitation of Psychological Vulnerabilities

  • Targeting Vulnerable Individuals: High control religions often target individuals who are experiencing personal crises, loneliness, or seeking meaning in life. These individuals are more susceptible to the group’s message and control techniques.
  • Gradual Indoctrination: The process of indoctrination is typically gradual, starting with mild teachings and escalating to more extreme beliefs and practices as the member becomes more deeply involved.

By employing these techniques, high control religions can significantly influence and control their members’ thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, creating a closed system that is resistant to outside influence and critical thinking.

Are you prepared to continue unraveling the mysteries? Tune into this episode as we delve further into… exposing the Impact of social media on Recruitment and Manipulation. Until then, maintain your curiosity, embrace skepticism, and keep tuning in! 🎙️🔒

For a deeper understanding of brainwashing and related psychological manipulation techniques, you can explore a variety of resources spanning books, academic papers, and credible online articles. Here are some notable recommendations:

### Books
1. **”Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism” by Robert Jay Lifton**: This seminal work offers a detailed examination of brainwashing techniques used during the Chinese thought reform programs.
2. **”Cults in Our Midst: The Hidden Menace in Our Everyday Lives” by Margaret Thaler Singer and Janja Lalich**: This book provides insights into the psychological mechanisms of cults and brainwashing.
3. **”Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion” by Robert B. Cialdini**: While not exclusively about brainwashing, this book explores the principles of influence and manipulation.
4. **”Combatting Cult Mind Control” by Steven Hassan**: This book by a former cult member and mental health counselor offers practical advice and personal insights into the process of mind control and how to counter it.

### Academic Articles
1. **”Brainwashing: The Science of Thought Control” by Kathleen Taylor**: This article, and the book of the same name, delve into the scientific basis of brainwashing and its effects on the brain.
2. **”Psychological Coercion and Human Rights: Exploring the Notion of Brainwashing”**: Various academic journals explore the intersection of psychological coercion and human rights, providing theoretical and empirical insights.

### Online Resources
1. **The International Cultic Studies Association (ICSA)**: Their website offers a wealth of articles, research papers, and resources on brainwashing, mind control, and cultic studies.
2. **APA PsycNet**: The American Psychological Association’s database provides access to numerous scholarly articles on brainwashing and related topics.
3. **TED Talks and Documentaries**: Several TED Talks and documentaries explore the impact of psychological manipulation and brainwashing, offering both expert insights and personal stories.

By exploring these resources, you can gain a comprehensive understanding of the mechanisms, effects, and countermeasures related to brainwashing.

#Brainwashing #MindControl #Awareness #StayInformed #Psychology #CriticalThinking #HighControlReligion #CultAwareness #KnowledgeIsPower #deconstruction #deconstructioncommunity #faith #podcast #endtimesbeliefs #taste0ftruthtuesdays

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Challenging Complementarianism in the Church: Uncovering Harmful Gender Ideologies

The idea of biblical womanhood is more about human power structures than the message of Christ. When we examine church history, we can challenge the notion that this belief is inherently biblical.

In the early Christian church, there are several examples of female apostles and leaders:

  1. Mary Magdalene: Mary Magdalene is one of the most prominent figures in the New Testament and is often referred to as the “apostle to the apostles.” She was present at Jesus’ crucifixion, burial, and resurrection, and she was the first to witness the risen Christ and announce his resurrection to the disciples.
  2. Priscilla: Priscilla, along with her husband Aquila, played a significant role in the early Christian church. They are mentioned several times in the New Testament, often as fellow workers with Paul. Priscilla is commended for her teaching and ministry alongside her husband.
  3. Junia: Junia is mentioned by Paul in his letter to the Romans as being “outstanding among the apostles.” This indicates that she held a significant leadership role in the early church and was recognized by Paul as a fellow apostle.
  4. Phoebe: Phoebe is mentioned by Paul in his letter to the Romans as a deaconess or servant of the church in Cenchreae. She is commended for her service to the church and is likely to have held a leadership role.

These are just a few examples of the many women who played important roles in the early Christian church as apostles, leaders, and ministers. Their contributions highlight the diversity and inclusivity of the early Christian community.

The conservative ⛪️ promotes dangerous ideologies-women submitting to men aka Complementarianism.

This ideology has connections to movements like the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW), which promotes complementarianism and traditional gender roles within conservative Evangelicalism.

This started the rise of New Calvinism, spearheaded by influential figures such as John Piper, John MacArthur, and Mark Driscoll, further reinforcing these gender roles. 🚩

Female gender norms that emphasize tenderness over assertiveness hinder women’s ability to assert themselves and address unfair treatment effectively.

🚨 Women submitting to their husband is a dangerous ideology. 🚨

A major cause of s*xual mistreatment is societal: the structural inequality that gives men power over women. 

The IFS report that showed that conservative highly religious men were far more likely to perpetrate intimate partner violence.

🏴‍☠️A Meta-analysis of 39 studies found hyper-masculinity to be one of the most powerful predictors of men’s likelihood to commit assault. 🏴‍☠️

Couples where the husband dominated decision-making were 2.6 times more likely to experience lower marital satisfaction compared to those who made decisions collaboratively.

This is why ab*se is so common in the ⛪️.

It’s the theology that’s bad. Not just how it’s interpreted.

As I’ve said before, it was deeply painful, realizing I had been influenced by the dangerous lies behind Nancy Pearcey’s book The Toxic War on Masculinity. Which was heavily promoted by David Wolcott, Alisa Childers, Alexa Clark & Frank Turek, who are often associated with right-wing fundamentalist Christianity. 🚩

She said “There’s no need to debate complementarianism or egalitarianism when it comes to marriage” 𝔸𝕔𝕥𝕦𝕒𝕝𝕝𝕪 ℕ𝕒𝕟𝕔𝕪, 𝕎𝕖 𝔻𝕠! Pearcey pulls findings from Gottman’s work, citing that in both egalitarian & hierarchical marriages “emotionally intelligent husbands have figured out the one big thing: how to convey honor and respect.” Thus, she claims, labels don’t matter.

However, she omits to mention the big finding Gottman uses to frame this entire chapter: Complementarian men only do well when they don’t act out hierarchy and put aside their beliefs. You can’t claim beliefs in complementarianism are irrelevant by quoting someone who found acting out those beliefs is disastrous.

This is only ONE of the major criticisms of the book pointing to the lack of empirical evidence to support the claims made in the book, particularly regarding the alleged “war on masculinity.” For more read this!

🚨 We should consider the consequences of promoting ideological narratives without empirical support. 🚨

The liberation of women from oppression is crucial for fostering a more equitable and just society.

When women are liberated, they can fully contribute their talents, perspectives, and skills to all aspects of life, including politics, economics, and culture. This liberation not only benefits women individually but also lead to societal progress by dismantling systemic barriers and promoting inclusivity.

Moreover, when women are empowered, it creates a ripple effect, positively impacting families, communities, and future generations. Ultimately, achieving gender equality and women’s liberation is essential for building a more prosperous and harmonious world for all.

Sources: Sheila Wray Gregoire and Joanna Sawatsky

For more ℹ️
•The Bible vs Biblical womanhood by Philip Payne critically examines the concept of “biblical womanhood” and challenges traditional interpretations of scripture that restrict the roles and authority of women in the church. Payne argues that many teachings on gender roles are based on cultural assumptions rather than biblical principles. He examines key passages in the Bible that are often used to support the subjugation of women and offers alternative interpretations that affirm the equality and dignity of women. Payne’s work is a scholarly exploration of the biblical texts related to gender and offers a fresh perspective on the role of women in the church and society.
•Man and Woman, One in Christ: An Exegetical and Theological Study of Paul’s Letters by Philip Barton Payne Philip Barton Payne is a comprehensive exploration of the biblical teachings regarding gender equality and roles within the Christian community. Payne examines Paul’s letters with a focus on understanding the true meaning behind passages often used to support hierarchical gender relationships. He argues that Paul’s writings affirm the equality of men and women in Christ and that traditional interpretations promoting male authority over women are based on misunderstandings or misinterpretations. Payne provides exegetical analysis and theological insights to support his argument, offering a scholarly perspective on gender equality within the church. Overall, the book challenges traditional views on gender roles and provides a compelling case for the equality of men and women in Christ.
•Terran Williams’-How God Sees Women-explores the biblical perspective on the role and value of women in Christianity. Through a careful examination of scripture, Williams challenges traditional interpretations that have marginalized women and restricted their participation in religious life. He argues that God views women as equal partners with men in his divine plan and emphasizes the importance of empowering women within the church. Williams’ work offers a refreshing and inclusive perspective on gender equality within Christianity, inviting readers to reconsider their understanding of women’s roles in faith and society
•The Making of Biblical Womanhood How the Subjugation of Women became Gospel Truth by Beth Allison Barr This book explores the historical development of gender roles within Christianity. Barr delves into the roots of traditional teachings on gender roles, revealing how they evolved over time and became ingrained as gospel truth. Drawing on historical research, Barr challenges the notion that traditional gender roles are biblical, arguing that they are instead products of cultural and theological developments. She examines key historical figures and events that shaped these teachings, shedding light on the ways in which women’s roles have been subjugated within the church. Ultimately, Barr advocates for a more egalitarian interpretation of scripture and a reevaluation of traditional teachings on gender within Christianity. Her book offers a thought-provoking critique of gender hierarchy in the church and calls for a reexamination of biblical womanhood.
•Marg Mowczko’s work focuses on biblical studies and gender equality within Christianity. Through her writing and research, she explores various passages of scripture to challenge traditional interpretations that have limited the roles of women in the church. Mowczko argues for a more inclusive understanding of women’s participation in ministry, leadership, and theological scholarship. She highlights the presence of female leaders, apostles, and prophets in the early Christian church, advocating for their recognition and empowerment in contemporary religious communities. Mowczko’s work contributes to ongoing discussions about gender equality and biblical interpretation, inspiring readers to reevaluate their understanding of women’s roles in faith and spirituality.

MORE SOURCES: The IFS report that showed that conservative highly religious men were far more likely to perpetrate intimate partner violence (p. 36):
-https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/reports/worldfamilymap-2019-051819.pdf
-https://baptistnews.com/article/do-complementarian-men-do-better-a-response-to-nancy-pearcey/
-https://leo-cruz.medium.com/nancy-pearcey-pt1-44f98c2a3602

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What are the signs of spiritual gaslighting?

Gaslighting phrases can unfortunately occur in any context, including within religious communities. Here are some examples of common gaslighting phrases that may be used within church settings:

  • “You’re just being too sensitive.”
  • “That’s not what the Bible says.”
  • “You’re questioning God’s will.”
  • “You’re overreacting.”
  • “You must have misunderstood.”
  • “You’re just seeking attention.”
  • “You’re letting the devil deceive you.”
  • “You need to have more faith.”
  • “You’re not praying hard enough.”
  • “You’re making things up.”
  • “You’re being disobedient to God.”
  • “You’re just looking for excuses.”
  • “You’re being divisive.”
  • “You’re being ungrateful.”
  • “You’re causing problems in the church.”

Gaslighting is one of the most misused tools to shut people down and shut them up. In the church, these gaslighting phrases get overlooked because they sound spiritual. The truth is they are just ways to control people, their actions, and the narrative around abusive behaviors. Jesus listened to hurting people, and we must learn how to listen.

It’s important to recognize and address gaslighting behaviors in any context, including within religious communities, to promote healthy and respectful communication.

Listen to Episode 002 of @church_disrupted where they expose toxic gaslighting phrases & behaviors!

Have you experienced gaslighting within the church before?

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