Empower Your Healing Journey: The Diabolical Trinity Book Review

🌟 Book Review Alert! 🌟 This week’s podcast guest, Dr. Mark Gregory Karris, dives deep into religious trauma with his eye-opening book, ā€œThe Diabolical Trinity: Healing Religious Trauma from Original Sin, a Wrathful God, and Tormenting Hell.ā€ šŸ“šāœØ

Struggling with the remnants of religious fear and guilt? Dr. Karris’s insights are a game-changer. Swipe āž”ļø to uncover why this book is a must-read for anyone on a healing journey.

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Dr. Mark Gregory Karris’s ā€œThe Diabolical Trinity: Healing Religious Trauma from a Wrathful God, Tormenting Hell, and Sinful Selfā€ is a groundbreaking exploration of the psychological and emotional toll of harmful religious doctrines. Drawing from his extensive experience as a licensed therapist and ordained pastor, Karris skillfully dissects the ā€œDiabolical Trinityā€ā€”the doctrines of a wrathful God, eternal torment in hell, and pervasive self-condemnation.

A Fresh Perspective on Religious Trauma

Dr. Mark’s has a compassionate and insightful approach to a topic often shrouded in silence and stigma. His work is praised for providing a fresh perspective on religious trauma, moving beyond mere critique to offer tangible steps toward healing. Karris’s ability to blend scholarly rigor with heartfelt empathy makes the book accessible to both academic and general audiences.

Empowering & Transformative

One of the most celebrated aspects of ā€œThe Diabolical Trinityā€ is Karris’s focus on empowerment. Critics have highlighted how the book not only identifies the sources of trauma but also provides practical tools for recovery. Karris’s therapeutic techniques and exercises are designed to help readers reclaim their sense of self-worth and foster a healthier, more compassionate spiritual outlook.

Critique & Redemption

While Karris does not shy away from critiquing harmful religious doctrines, he does so with a redemptive vision. He challenges readers to rethink their understanding of God, hell, and sin, offering an alternative that is both theologically sound and psychologically healing. This balanced approach has been particularly praised by critics who value both the deconstruction and reconstruction of faith.

Engaging & Accessible

The book’s engaging narrative style has also been a point of praise. Karris weaves personal anecdotes with clinical case studies, creating a compelling and relatable read. His clear and concise writing ensures that complex theological and psychological concepts are easily understood, making the book suitable for a wide audience.

Conclusion

In ā€œThe Diabolical Trinity,ā€ Dr. Mark Gregory Karris offers a powerful and necessary contribution to the conversation on religious trauma. His work stands out for its depth of insight, practical guidance, and hopeful vision for healing. For anyone grappling with the damaging effects of rigid religious doctrines, this book provides a beacon of light and a path toward wholeness.

Deconstructing Faith Dynamics: Overcoming Anxiety and Narcissistic Rage

Have you ever noticed how some individuals react with intense hostility or aggression when their deeply held beliefs are questioned? Keep reading as we will be exploring this very concept.

This week on the podcast, we’re sitting down with Dr. Mark Gregory Karris to explore the twists and turns of his diverse professional journey and how it shapes his approach to tackling religious trauma.

 šŸŽ¢ From deconstructing faith dynamics to navigating life after leaving religious traditions, Dr. Karris dishes out practical steps and deep insights like a pro. šŸ“š We dive into his latest book ā€˜Diabolical Trinity’ where he takes on the big questions—like transforming a wrathful God into a compassionate one and the impact of religious experiences on mental health. šŸ•Šļø 

Join us as we uncover the power of community and holistic healing in this can’t-miss conversation! 🌈

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Navigating Anxiety in Fundamentalist Christian Circles During Deconstruction

People entrenched in fundamentalist sects of Christianity often experience heightened anxiety when they witness others going through a process of deconstruction. This reaction stems from their upbringing, where they were taught that deviation from established beliefs and practices is not only wrong but potentially dangerous. In fundamentalist environments, any departure from the accepted norms can be perceived as a threat to one’s faith, community, and even personal safety.

This anxiety is compounded by the fear that questioning or exploring alternative beliefs may lead to spiritual and moral peril. Fundamentalist teachings often instill a rigid worldview where conformity is equated with spiritual safety, and deviation is seen as a sign of weakness or susceptibility to worldly influences.

Moreover, the concept of narcissistic rage can be observed in some cases, where individuals deeply embedded in fundamentalist ideologies react with hostility or aggression towards those who challenge or question their beliefs. Here are a few examples:

Verbal Attacks:

When someone questions a fundamentalist belief, the individual might respond with insults, shouting, or belittling the questioner. For instance, calling someone ā€œignorantā€ or ā€œevilā€ for simply asking a question about their faith.

Social Ostracism:

In a tight-knit religious community, members who express doubts or differing opinions might be shunned, isolated, or expelled from the community.

Online Harassment:

On social media, individuals might react to criticism or questions with trolling or coordinated harassment campaigns against the perceived challenger.

Physical Aggression:

In extreme cases, questioning or challenging fundamentalist beliefs can lead to threats of violence or actual physical harm.

This reaction is different from a healthy spiritual practice, which encourages openness, curiosity, and respectful dialogue about different perspectives.

Examples of Healthy Spirituality:

Open Dialogue:

Encouraging conversations where differing beliefs and perspectives are discussed respectfully, with a genuine interest in understanding the other person’s viewpoint

Supportive Community:

Building a community where questioning and exploring faith is seen as a natural part of spiritual growth, and members support each other through their journeys.

Personal Reflection:

Encouraging conversations where differing beliefs and perspectives are discussed respectfully, with a genuine interest in understanding the other person’s viewpoint.

Interfaith Engagement:

Participating in interfaith dialogues or activities that promote learning from different religious traditions and appreciating the diversity of spiritual experiences.

These contrasting examples can illustrate the difference between a rigid, defensive response and a more open, growth-oriented approach to spirituality.

By recognizing the signs of narcissistic rage and embracing a more open and compassionate approach.

Navigating these dynamics requires empathy and understanding from both sides. Those undergoing deconstruction seek to reconcile their evolving beliefs with their personal experiences and spiritual growth, while those in fundamentalist circles may benefit from recognizing that diversity of belief does not necessarily threaten their own faith or spiritual well-being. Here’s how this dynamic unfolds:

  1. Fear of Deviation: Fundamentalist teachings often emphasize a strict adherence to doctrinal purity and established beliefs. Any questioning or deviation from these beliefs is viewed as a threat to faith and spiritual safety.
  2. Cognitive Dissonance: Witnessing others deconstructing their faith can trigger cognitive dissonance among fundamentalists. It challenges their worldview and belief system, leading to discomfort and anxiety.
  3. Fear of Consequences: Fundamentalist teachings may instill fear regarding the consequences of exploring different beliefs or questioning established doctrines. There’s a pervasive belief that straying from the accepted path could lead to spiritual peril or loss of salvation.
  4. Sense of Identity Threat: For individuals deeply embedded in fundamentalist communities, their identity and sense of belonging are closely tied to doctrinal conformity. Deconstruction challenges this identity, causing emotional distress and anxiety.
  5. Social Pressure: Fundamentalist communities often exert strong social pressure to conform to group norms and beliefs. The prospect of others deconstructing their faith can create social anxiety and a fear of ostracization or judgment from peers and leaders.

In essence, the anxiety experienced by individuals in fundamentalist sects when encountering deconstruction reflects deep-seated beliefs and teachings that equate divergence from established doctrines with spiritual peril. This anxiety underscores the psychological and emotional challenges inherent in questioning and evolving one’s faith within such contexts. Encouraging open dialogue and mutual respect can foster a healthier approach to spiritual exploration and community dynamics.

Challenging Complementarianism in the Church: Uncovering Harmful Gender Ideologies

The idea of biblical womanhood is more about human power structures than the message of Christ. When we examine church history, we can challenge the notion that this belief is inherently biblical.

In the early Christian church, there are several examples of female apostles and leaders:

  1. Mary Magdalene: Mary Magdalene is one of the most prominent figures in the New Testament and is often referred to as the “apostle to the apostles.” She was present at Jesus’ crucifixion, burial, and resurrection, and she was the first to witness the risen Christ and announce his resurrection to the disciples.
  2. Priscilla: Priscilla, along with her husband Aquila, played a significant role in the early Christian church. They are mentioned several times in the New Testament, often as fellow workers with Paul. Priscilla is commended for her teaching and ministry alongside her husband.
  3. Junia: Junia is mentioned by Paul in his letter to the Romans as being “outstanding among the apostles.” This indicates that she held a significant leadership role in the early church and was recognized by Paul as a fellow apostle.
  4. Phoebe: Phoebe is mentioned by Paul in his letter to the Romans as a deaconess or servant of the church in Cenchreae. She is commended for her service to the church and is likely to have held a leadership role.

These are just a few examples of the many women who played important roles in the early Christian church as apostles, leaders, and ministers. Their contributions highlight the diversity and inclusivity of the early Christian community.

The conservative ā›Ŗļø promotes dangerous ideologies-women submitting to men aka Complementarianism.

This ideology has connections to movements like the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood (CBMW), which promotes complementarianism and traditional gender roles within conservative Evangelicalism.

This started the rise of New Calvinism, spearheaded by influential figures such as John Piper, John MacArthur, and Mark Driscoll, further reinforcing these gender roles. 🚩

Female gender norms that emphasize tenderness over assertiveness hinder women’s ability to assert themselves and address unfair treatment effectively.

🚨 Women submitting to their husband is a dangerous ideology. 🚨

A major cause of s*xual mistreatment is societal: the structural inequality that gives men power over women. 

The IFS report that showed that conservative highly religious men were far more likely to perpetrate intimate partner violence.

šŸ“ā€ā˜ ļøA Meta-analysis of 39 studies found hyper-masculinity to be one of the most powerful predictors of men’s likelihood to commit assault. šŸ“ā€ā˜ ļø

Couples where the husband dominated decision-making were 2.6 times more likely to experience lower marital satisfaction compared to those who made decisions collaboratively.

This is why ab*se is so common in the ā›Ŗļø.

It’s the theology that’s bad. Not just how it’s interpreted.

As I’ve said before, it was deeply painful, realizing I had been influenced by the dangerous lies behind Nancy Pearcey’s book The Toxic War on Masculinity. Which was heavily promoted by David Wolcott, Alisa Childers, Alexa Clark & Frank Turek, who are often associated with right-wing fundamentalist Christianity. 🚩

She said ā€œThere’s no need to debate complementarianism or egalitarianism when it comes to marriageā€ š”øš•”š•„š•¦š•’š•š•š•Ŗ ā„•š•’š•Ÿš•”š•Ŗ, š•Žš•– š”»š• ! Pearcey pulls findings from Gottman’s work, citing that in both egalitarian & hierarchical marriages ā€œemotionally intelligent husbands have figured out the one big thing: how to convey honor and respect.ā€ Thus, she claims, labels don’t matter.

However, she omits to mention the big finding Gottman uses to frame this entire chapter: Complementarian men only do well when they don’t act out hierarchy and put aside their beliefs. You can’t claim beliefs in complementarianism are irrelevant by quoting someone who found acting out those beliefs is disastrous.

This is only ONE of the major criticisms of the book pointing to the lack of empirical evidence to support the claims made in the book, particularly regarding the alleged ā€œwar on masculinity.ā€ For more read this!

🚨 We should consider the consequences of promoting ideological narratives without empirical support. 🚨

The liberation of women from oppression is crucial for fostering a more equitable and just society.

When women are liberated, they can fully contribute their talents, perspectives, and skills to all aspects of life, including politics, economics, and culture. This liberation not only benefits women individually but also lead to societal progress by dismantling systemic barriers and promoting inclusivity.

Moreover, when women are empowered, it creates a ripple effect, positively impacting families, communities, and future generations. Ultimately, achieving gender equality and women’s liberation is essential for building a more prosperous and harmonious world for all.

Sources: Sheila Wray Gregoire and Joanna Sawatsky

For more ā„¹ļø
•The Bible vs Biblical womanhood by Philip Payne critically examines the concept of “biblical womanhood” and challenges traditional interpretations of scripture that restrict the roles and authority of women in the church. Payne argues that many teachings on gender roles are based on cultural assumptions rather than biblical principles. He examines key passages in the Bible that are often used to support the subjugation of women and offers alternative interpretations that affirm the equality and dignity of women. Payne’s work is a scholarly exploration of the biblical texts related to gender and offers a fresh perspective on the role of women in the church and society.
•Man and Woman, One in Christ: An Exegetical and Theological Study of Paul’s Letters by Philip Barton Payne Philip Barton Payne is a comprehensive exploration of the biblical teachings regarding gender equality and roles within the Christian community. Payne examines Paul’s letters with a focus on understanding the true meaning behind passages often used to support hierarchical gender relationships. He argues that Paul’s writings affirm the equality of men and women in Christ and that traditional interpretations promoting male authority over women are based on misunderstandings or misinterpretations. Payne provides exegetical analysis and theological insights to support his argument, offering a scholarly perspective on gender equality within the church. Overall, the book challenges traditional views on gender roles and provides a compelling case for the equality of men and women in Christ.
•Terran Williams’-How God Sees Women-explores the biblical perspective on the role and value of women in Christianity. Through a careful examination of scripture, Williams challenges traditional interpretations that have marginalized women and restricted their participation in religious life. He argues that God views women as equal partners with men in his divine plan and emphasizes the importance of empowering women within the church. Williams’ work offers a refreshing and inclusive perspective on gender equality within Christianity, inviting readers to reconsider their understanding of women’s roles in faith and society
•The Making of Biblical Womanhood How the Subjugation of Women became Gospel Truth by Beth Allison Barr This book explores the historical development of gender roles within Christianity. Barr delves into the roots of traditional teachings on gender roles, revealing how they evolved over time and became ingrained as gospel truth. Drawing on historical research, Barr challenges the notion that traditional gender roles are biblical, arguing that they are instead products of cultural and theological developments. She examines key historical figures and events that shaped these teachings, shedding light on the ways in which women’s roles have been subjugated within the church. Ultimately, Barr advocates for a more egalitarian interpretation of scripture and a reevaluation of traditional teachings on gender within Christianity. Her book offers a thought-provoking critique of gender hierarchy in the church and calls for a reexamination of biblical womanhood.
•Marg Mowczko’s work focuses on biblical studies and gender equality within Christianity. Through her writing and research, she explores various passages of scripture to challenge traditional interpretations that have limited the roles of women in the church. Mowczko argues for a more inclusive understanding of women’s participation in ministry, leadership, and theological scholarship. She highlights the presence of female leaders, apostles, and prophets in the early Christian church, advocating for their recognition and empowerment in contemporary religious communities. Mowczko’s work contributes to ongoing discussions about gender equality and biblical interpretation, inspiring readers to reevaluate their understanding of women’s roles in faith and spirituality.

MORE SOURCES: The IFS report that showed that conservative highly religious men were far more likely to perpetrate intimate partner violence (p. 36):
-https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/reports/worldfamilymap-2019-051819.pdf
-https://baptistnews.com/article/do-complementarian-men-do-better-a-response-to-nancy-pearcey/
-https://leo-cruz.medium.com/nancy-pearcey-pt1-44f98c2a3602

#deconstruction#deconstructioncommunity#genderroles#biblicalfemininity#biblicalwomanhood#biblicalwomanhood#badtheologykills#calvinism#womenempowerment#women#womensupportingwomen#explorepage

Understanding Religious Trauma: Causes, Symptoms, and Healing

“Another wave of rejection surfaced when people either shamed us for not being in church or stopped talking to us all together. It left me wondering whether I was truly accepted by God–his people surely weren’t making me feel that way, except when I did what they wanted me to do” -Karl Forehand Out into the Desert

The Deconstruction of Christianity is something I’ve heard of since stepping into the world of theology, but I never thought I’d find myself smack dab in the middle of the movement.  #deconstructioncommunity

Disentangling or #deconstruction is a phenomenon where individuals, often within the Christian faith, critically reevaluate their beliefs, doctrines, and practices. This process involves questioning and challenging long-held assumptions, teachings, and traditions within Christianity, with the goal of arriving at a more authentic and personally meaningful understanding of #faith.

The š‘“š‘’š‘Žš‘Ÿ of rejection from God, from others, and actual rejection from others can feel suffocating as negative emotions become all consuming.

The feeling of loneliness when working through one’s doubts, questions and the decision to move away from harmful religious teachings can feel unbearable.

#Religioustrauma refers to psychological, emotional, or social harm caused by religious beliefs, practices, or communities.

Here are some quick facts:

1. **Definition**: It encompasses experiences of guilt, shame, fear, and anxiety resulting from religious teachings, practices, or communities.

2. **Causes**: It can stem from rigid dogma, abusive religious leaders, or pressure to conform to specific beliefs.

3. **Symptoms**: Symptoms may include anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and difficulty trusting others.

4. **Triggers**: Certain events or experiences may trigger religious trauma, such as leaving a religious community, questioning beliefs, or encountering religious lingo.

5. **Treatment**: Treatment often involves therapy, support groups, and finding new sources of meaning and community.

6. **Impact**: Religious trauma can have long-lasting effects on individuals’ mental health, relationships, and sense of identity.

7. **Awareness**: Awareness of religious trauma is growing, leading to more resources and support for those affected.

“Religious trauma is the emotional and psychological damage caused by harmful religious experiences or teachings. It can result from authoritarianism, legalism, fear-based theology, and other forms of spiritual abuse.”

“Deconstruction often involves revisiting and reevaluating one’s religious upbringing, which can bring to light past trauma and contribute to healing.”

“The deconstruction movement recognizes the importance of addressing religious trauma and creating safe spaces for individuals to explore their beliefs without fear of judgment or retribution.”

“For many, deconstruction is not just about questioning beliefs, but also about processing and healing from religious trauma.”

“Navigating the deconstruction journey can be challenging, especially for those who have experienced religious trauma. It requires courage, self-compassion, and support from others who understand.”

The book When Religion Hurts you has served as a beacon of support and empowerment for those of us who are navigating the complexities of disentanglement from restrictive religious beliefs. It offers validation, guidance, and solidarity to individuals who are embarking on this journey.

Thank you @drlauraeanderson ā¤ļøā€šŸ©¹

If you’re looking for more! Please check out these support groups:

https://www.soyouredeconstructing.com/communities

https://www.disrupted.church/becomeadisruptor

The New Evangelicals website

 #deconstructingfaith #trauma #traumainformed #traumahealing #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #church #churchhurt #purityculture #faithtrauma #faith #community #growth #explorepage

Cover-ups within the Church

As y’all know, the deconstruction of Christianity is something I’ve heard of since stepping into the world of theology, but I never thought I’d find myself smack dab in the middle of the movement. There were numerous aspects that led me to begin unraveling, the real smack upside the head, realizing I was within a spiritual abusive biblical counseling relationship and program, that led me to notice the brutal similarities of abuse within IHOPKC, the scandals within the Grace Community Church & ACBC Biblical/Nouthetic counseling. Cover-ups of abuse within the church are deeply troubling & have been documented in various contexts & denominations.

Cover-ups within the institution of the church refer to the deliberate efforts by religious leaders or authorities to conceal or downplay instances of misconduct, abuse, or wrongdoing within the church community. These cover-ups often involve minimizing or denying allegations, protecting perpetrators, silencing victims, and avoiding accountability or legal repercussions.

In many cases, church leaders may prioritize protecting the reputation and image of the institution over addressing the harm caused to individuals who have experienced abuse or misconduct. This can perpetuate a culture of secrecy, mistrust, and impunity within the church, allowing harmful behavior to continue unchecked and undermining the safety and well-being of congregants.

Cover-ups within the church can take various forms, including:

  1. Concealing allegations of abuse or misconduct by clergy or church staff.
  2. Transferring accused individuals to other congregations or positions within the church rather than reporting them to authorities.
  3. Discrediting or intimidating victims who come forward with allegations.
  4. Failing to implement proper protocols for preventing and responding to abuse, such as background checks or training programs.
  5. Withholding information or misleading congregants and the public about the extent of abuse or misconduct within the church.

Key points to consider:

1ļøāƒ£Institutional Protection: In some cases, church leaders or institutions have been accused of prioritizing the protection of their reputation or the reputation of the church over addressing allegations of abuse. This can lead to efforts to conceal or minimize reports of abuse, rather than taking appropriate steps to investigate and address them.

2ļøāƒ£Failure to Report: In jurisdictions where clergy are mandated reporters of abuse, failure to report allegations of abuse to law enforcement authorities can constitute a form of cover-up. Church leaders who fail to report abuse may face legal consequences and can contribute to ongoing harm to victims and survivors.

3ļøāƒ£Impact on Victims: Cover-ups of abuse can have devastating consequences for victims and survivors, who may feel betrayed by trusted religious leaders and institutions. Failure to address abuse allegations can perpetuate cycles of harm and contribute to ongoing trauma and suffering.

4ļøāƒ£Lack of Transparency: Cover-ups of abuse often involve a lack of transparency and accountability within the church hierarchy. Victims and survivors may be discouraged or silenced from speaking out, and internal investigations may be conducted without appropriate oversight or impartiality.

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These cover-ups can have devastating consequences for victims, perpetuating cycles of abuse, trauma, and disillusionment. They also erode trust in church leadership and contribute to broader societal concerns about institutional integrity and accountability.

Addressing cover-ups of abuse within the church requires a commitment to transparency, accountability, and justice. Church leaders and institutions must prioritize the safety and well-being of all members of their community and take decisive action to prevent and address abuse in all its forms.

#churchhurtĀ #SpiritualAbuseĀ #HidingHurtsĀ #SpeakUpĀ #BreakTheSilenceĀ #ProtectTheInnocentĀ #HealingJourneyĀ #AuthenticConversationsĀ #CommunitySupportĀ #FindYourVoiceĀ #ChurchDisruptedĀ #PodcastĀ #christianĀ #christianityĀ #religioustraumaĀ #honestyheals #deconstructionĀ #disentanglementĀ #religioustraumaĀ #adversereligiousexperiencesĀ #spiritualtruthĀ #progressivechristianityĀ #exvangelicalĀ #exevangelicalĀ #igotout_orgĀ #churchhurtĀ #purityculture
#deconstructioncommunityĀ #deconstructionĀ #deconstructingfaithĀ #disentanglement

IHOPKC-Manipulation, Deception & Spiritual Harm

šŸŽ™ļøEpisode 10 From Falsehood to Freedom: Lessons from a former False Prophetess

This week on the podcast we had Dawn Hill with us who discussed that a HUGE issue with the prophetic prayers and prophetic word movement is the potential for manipulation, deception, and spiritual harm.

I can’t help but to notice the brutal similarities between the approach IHOPKC is taking which is clearly focused on maintaining control and protecting the institution & the scandals within the Grace Community Church & ACBC Biblical/Nouthetic counseling.

If you or anyone you know has experienced abuse or misconduct within IHOPKC or any other religious organization PLEASE be encouraged to seek support, speak out, and report your experiences to appropriate authorities.

SEEK THEN SPEAK – A tool for sexual assault survivors and support people. Visit seekthenspeak.app to fill out a private survey to gather information and consider your next steps.

MOCSA (Metropolitan Organization to Counter S*xual Assault)

Call the crisis hotline at (816) 531-0233 in Missouri or (913) 642-0233 in Kansas.

DRZ Law Call (913) 400-2033 to request a free case evaluation.

BozLaw PA – Now representing victims of IHOPKC
Visit http://www.bozlawpa.com and fill out the form on the website to request a free case evaluation.

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